It hurts to be mislead by those you love and trust. You have every right to feel as you do. Trust has to be earned and when the time is right you will feel it. I feel the same way. I too was recently wronged by someone I considered family. Hang in there. If you want to talk, I'm here.

I don't believe it is possible to really ever trust someone. I can't speak for everyone here, but, being abused as a child is so devastating. Trust is non-existent. When I grew up, I thought trust was something to find in someone. Maybe if I find one person I can trust, then I am worthy or I am sain. I discovered that trust has many layers. From simple basic to deep trust. It is rare that anyone is deeply trusted. And I do basically trust people on the surface. I had to stop searching for validation through trust and realize that people are human and make mistakes. When I form a relationship with someone I cannot trust, I feel it is because I have not learned why type of person to trust in that specific way. I think that is why there is so much divorce among survivors. Looking back in time, I believe if I had worked on my "skewed" perception of people, it might have saved me from all the relationship disasters I had. In other words, it is "ok" not to trust others. And it is critical to discover within ourselves, through thearapy, what "perceptions" we have grown accustomed to that makes us chose the people we have in our life today.

Dear JennDM,

Thank you with all my heart for your email. I am sorry to hear about your recent situation as well. Life is a mystery and everyday I learn something new.

I am just trying to make sense of everything that I have been dealing with. Please feel free to email me again...I am here for you too. Blessings. You deserve to be treated with only kindness and love.

Dear Hinged,

Thank you with all my heart for your email. Yes, I have been hearing more about people saying you cannot ever fully trust anyone. I think the only one you can ever fully trust is yourself. The better you know yourself, the better it will allow you to trust others. I do believe this with all my heart.

I know that I must trust my instincts more and not question them...

I believe you are right on when you say that trust has much to do with how we perceive a situation.

Blessings to you, always.

Go back and discover the root of your belief system. It began long, long ago as a little girl. In many ways you may still be that little girl looking for love and acceptance for people who cannot or will not love you.
Once you get to know yourself and your motivations better, you can make better choices for yourself. It will be strange at first to be with someone who really loves you...