i know to many this is going to seem insane and impossible, but just hear me out because it is true. me and my bf where friends for over a year and he helped me through an abusive relationship. i got out of the abusive relationship and after a couple of months me and my bf started dateing. it was so amazing, i didn't know a relationship could be so wonderful! he would bring me candy in the morning at school and he would visit me at work all the time. about a year later, i started working in the cafe of our school in the morning before school to help my bf at his job because one of the girls working got hurt and couldn't work. the girl, was a girl i hate, i hated her when i took the job because she used the job to flirt with my bf when i wasn't around, but then when she saw i was working there, she came back to work in one week instead of two, but i kept the job and helped out with other stuff. thats when i saw how he ineracted with her and when i tried to say anything or go near him it was all work. then it was out of work i was treated differently and it turned into abuse, nothing phycial, just emotional. i knew i was being hurt, but i didn't o or say anything because i thought it was in my head, until someone told me i was being abused and i didn't deserve it. so i went home and looked up the signs, i talked to my bf on the phone, talked to him, read to him the signs and made him see that he was being abusive, and he agreed and said he was so sorry and has been trying to make it up to me ever since. how ever, what pissed me off was the he still didn't see how he was flirting back anf forth with this girl and he still wanted to be friends with her but wasn't because he knew i didn't want him to be. so fast forward to last week, he read a letter i had written to him months ago that was very mean and explained how badly he hurt me and everything he did. he was hurt by it but finally understainds how he was wrong and how she distroied our relationship, and now he hates her. this makes me feel so much better because i never have to worry about her hurting me in any way and he has not been abusive in months. i feel like i am almost ready to forgive him, but how do i let go of the past and look to the future? how do i know when i am fully ready to forgive him? how do i let him know i forgive him? i know he has been waiting for this for a very long time, and so have i. how do i get closure from all of this and finally move on with my life with my bf?
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