How can someone who is SUPPOSED to love me--and stand by me--support me--(we live together...not married)and without a bat of an eye...say "if you fly you better make sure you take out a good insurance policy in my name...cause i intend to get paid if something happens to that plane?!?!--OR... if i ask him to go to the beach with me---his response--when we're ready...we need to tone up...lose some pounds----(EXSCUSE me...--but what if i never lose the weight i gained?!?!?!?--there'll be no beach together?!?!?---he also said i better get crackin on losin the weight cause we're going to a corvette show next weekend...and he told me.."I didn't buy those shorts for you for nothing last year"--I NEVER get complimented--and i mentioned that to him...and he says Oh no-- you didn't gain that right yet. Its even affected our sex life--he says that it's supposed to be my MOTIVATION!--LAST YEAR--as far as my "communication " skills with him-- he and i were having a conversation--and I said..my son is coming down saturday into sunday---now MOST people would assume he was spending the night...Oh No...WRONG...because i DID NOT say my son was stayin overnight...i caused confusion---and that one day my lack of good communication skills is going to cause a problem in an emergency.-----also..now and then friends of mine and myself have "girls's night out"...well.. we went out to eat--then we went bowling--and after that we went to a dance club...and were there for about an hour.---I had a soda...and sat at a table while my friends danced...I got home..it was 1:30 am....well....GUESS who was waiting up on me!---I walked in the spare bedroom...thats' where our spare tv is....i said.."comin to bed?"...he didn't answer...so i repeated myself--he still didn't answer...so...i got undressed...and went over to our bed...i wasn't layin down long before he came in the bedroom---stood at the end of the bed with his arms crossed.... and said...WHY do you smell like smoke?...i said we were at a dance club---he said oh really...and where else were you....i said we went out to eat....he said i didn't know that was part of the events for the night--he said where else....i said bowling....he said what time were you there...I said I don't know i didn't look at the clock---well...he demanded receipts for the place where we had dinner...a bowling receipt...and wanted a time on what time we got to the club---he said did it ever occur to you that you should have called....he said i went into the city where you SAY you were....i looked at the bowling alleys and didn't see your friend's car that drove...so WHERE were you??!!??!?---I said OMG....i was so there!---he said and why did't you call?!?!---i said I didn't know i had a CURFEW!---well..he had me crying...and stomped out the bedroom a few times only to come back in and badger me more about it. Of course the next day I got this BIG apology---not that it mattered cause the damage was already done. I have told him TIME after Time...when you say something it's already spoken and you CAN'T take it back!------and as time would have it....about 6 months ago....he brought up something and i said WHY...so you can follow me again?....his reply: He said "that didn't happen...i didn't go to the city...I made that up...!" HOW dare he!!!! He had me crying..upset...stressed...over NOTHING??!?!---AND i'M A GROWN ASS woman....NOT a 15 year old!---and he wants all the respect in the world...??!??!---That's another subject...to be continued............
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