My daughter is in her 3rd emotionally abusive relationship. Each one gets worse. She is currently married to this one and had twins to him in December. A week after the twins were born, she had to be reopened to heal from the inside out because of a bad infection. He got rid of his trucking business to go into business with his brother after she got home from the hospital. From January to the end of March when she finally told him to get out, he brought home $600. He quit helping her do anything. She was doing things that she shouldn't have been doing while she was healing and is still healing. They started counseling with a pastor in Jan. but the pastor recommended that he see a psychiatrist. He made an appointment but didn't keep it. He was thrown in jail for not paying child support for his two children from a previous marriage. When he was in jail, he promised her that he would find a real job. The day after he got of jail, he went back to work with his brother and for two weeks there was never a paycheck. He constantly told her that she didn't support him and just wanted him back on the road. He couldn't starve the business. He had put a master cyclinder in her van in November in which he didn't do right. She was constantly losing her brakes. He would bleed the brakes to fix them temporarily. I took her to the doctor one day in the van and her brake light came on. Looked under the hood and there was no brake fluid in it. He blames all problems on someone else. He always had money for cigarettes and Pepsi for himself but never gave her any money for anything. He was constantly telling her that she needed to find a job to help out and she still has not been discharged by a doctor. She did go out and get a job just before she kicked him out. He had been out of the house for a week, and she left him come back to see the kids only because he told her that he was going to church on Sunday to confront the pastor in front of the whole congregation stating the pastor had told her to kick him out. My daughter told me that the pastor is paying for him to see a psychiatrist for 3 visits and she had to go with him. After she got here, she told me that she was allowing him to come back on trial basis. Every application he submits, he has to bring her home a copy of it. I started to blow on her but stopped myself but her sister did tell her that she was going to cry wolf one too many times and no one would come running. That is when she told me that if I couldn't support her on this that she would do it alone. She could have just slapped me in the face because it has been me and her father who have been busting our butts taking care of her 3 kids (one to a previous relationship), fixing her van right, using my vehicle to go to work, and listening to her for hours on end. She told me this morning when she called to tell me that I wouldn't have the kids that she was trying to help him mentally. I have directed her to web sites on Battered Women Syndrome and she even admits that he is a batterer. Not physical yet but emotional. Trust me when I say this but this guy thinks he is God. I am ready to wash my hands of this girl but I feel like I can't give up just yet. I don't know what to do for her. She needs out of this relationship because he tells her what she wants to hear but never follows through. All of a sudden, he has handed her $1000 and a week ago he had no money to give her. All day today, he was at home and she told me that he was going to go apply for jobs. The anger at this guy is just eating me up. I'm not a young woman anymore and this is really wearing me down. Do I do nothing, give up, or what? His family is just as bad as he is. His mother has called my daughter a whore. Told her that she has ruined her son's life and all she wanted him for was for his money. There is no help there. HELP!
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