Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group
Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.
Thanks to everyone who answered, I am amazed by the advice I've recieved. Thank you for giving me some perspective. If I may, I would like to ask, what can I do to comfort her and help her ?
I have suggested counseling to her, but I don't want to push too hard. Also, while I know her needs take priority, I'm starving for some attention (non-sexual) , my needs are few, just to be greeted with a hug and a smile, to hear the words "i miss you" , just to know that I'm loved. I can be strong for her, but sometimes I become weak from lack of affection.
The boundaries issue is confusing, with the hours she and I work, we're only together for so many hours a week, and I don't live with her. As for personal boundaries, when she doesn't want to talk on a certain subject, I back off. I know not to push or pry, I try not to question anything, I let her lead in most instances(most all actually).
I love her very much, she is such a good person, and I can see the potential in her that she refuses/denies to see in herself, I want to help, and I want our relationship to work, what more can I do?
I have suggested counseling to her, but I don't want to push too hard. Also, while I know her needs take priority, I'm starving for some attention (non-sexual) , my needs are few, just to be greeted with a hug and a smile, to hear the words "i miss you" , just to know that I'm loved. I can be strong for her, but sometimes I become weak from lack of affection.
The boundaries issue is confusing, with the hours she and I work, we're only together for so many hours a week, and I don't live with her. As for personal boundaries, when she doesn't want to talk on a certain subject, I back off. I know not to push or pry, I try not to question anything, I let her lead in most instances(most all actually).
I love her very much, she is such a good person, and I can see the potential in her that she refuses/denies to see in herself, I want to help, and I want our relationship to work, what more can I do?
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
A thought for you. Im sure she is great and you are very nice, but is there a possibility that you are emotionally caught up in 'saving her?' or fixing her life? Sometimes those who want to save us the most are the most demanding upon us in terms of needing our love attention etc... I have had some scary people want to 'save me'. People who were very unhappy within their own lives. She may be feeling scared of you or your feelings.
anyways, whatever happens, good luck. Karen 45 washington state