Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group
Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.
Today I finally told my physically abusive husband of 2 years that I wanted a divorce and asked him to leave. He went to a bar and got drunk and came home angry and verbally abusive. He continued drinking and shoved me several times. He continues to scream vulgar things at me and trash the house breaking things and slamming doors. He's in bed now, passed out I hope. I don't want to leave my 10 pets here with him nor do I want him to destroy my home that I've had for 7 years. I have no friends or family close by, but he had plenty of places to go. How can I get him out and is his behavior enought to get him arrested??? HELP!
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I gave my 2 week notice last Friday 13th. Now to join you fine people in a life of leisure and nothing else to do but to look out for myself....is it just me or does that sound pretty boring? My goal was to live to retire and I guess having to take early retirement because of health reasons wasn't exactly the way I had planned things. I just can't stay in that building that is reeking mildew...
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
If you do this, I think they re-scedule you for 10 days to return to court for a review. And if you have filed for divorce, they'll surely consider him dangerous enough to keep him out.
In the meantime, call a DV shelter as they will give you te guidance and an advocate by your side.
Remember though, that a restraining order is just a piece of paper. It DOES give you the power to have him arrested if he comes close to you or your home, but if he decides to violate it, you can be in danger if he surprises you or in the time it takes for the police to arrive. You MUST consider your safety first. See if you can find someone who can "foster" your pets if it is necessary for you to move into a shelter. Ask the shelter if it is possible to bring one of them (a small dog or cat perhaps) with you. I know that there is a lot of emotional attachment, but at the end of the day, your house is a building that is full of belongings (which can be replaced) and memories (both good and bad). I know when I left my abusive ex, it was I that left, I did not throw him out. I was too afraid of what he might do, so my daughter and I just packed up and moved out with what we could throw together in just a few minutes. I know it's harder to do when you have pets and the like, but it is important to get him restrained and make sure he sticks to it.