Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group
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My ex will not give me space to get over our divorce. He embarrasses our kids by bringing his "flavor of the week" over to the house, invites her shopping, brings her to school functions.
We were divorced on October 1, 2007. we were seperated since March 5, 2006. in that time he has had several girlfriends and has brought them around my kids. A new one every other month or so.
A new bar/grill opened in my home town. i asked him if he could not go to this place and let me have one place i can go to without worring about seeing him with his girlfriends. he said he would.
my mother took my kids and myself out to the new grill for supper. everything was going great. untill he walked in with the new girlfriend. my daughter was in tears. she was so embarrassed.
my kids went over to talk to him, they asked first. my daughter came back to the table and said he needed to talk to me. she went back over to his table to tell him something and he said again he really needed to talk to me.
he played our daughter and myself. for me to go over and show off his new "friend".
just about everyday i see him. either driving by my place, when i leave class, when i am at work. i moved to another town to get away from him and he wont leave me alone.
when i call the cops on him they go and talk to him and he says he is conducting business, at 10:30 at night, in a residential district.
i can't move on with my life, with him "stalking" me. whenever i do start seeing someone he finds out and has a "chat" with the new guy and i never hear from him again.
can anyone give me some ideas. i am real close to moving away, but if i do that he will get my kids. that is what he wants, is for me to dissapear out of my kids' lives.
my oldest and my youngest have expressed they want to live with me and my middle child has expressed he wants to live with his dad.
my oldest was witness to a lot of the abuse. she has also said she is so afraid to have a boyfriend because she is afraid they will treat her just like dad treats me. she cant date anyway, not for another 2 years.
she sees they way her dad puts his "friends" before her and her brothers. she also sees they way he is "buying" their love. it makes her sick. it also ticks her off that he doesnt pay any support, she asked if he payed any support and i told her the truth.
i wont lie to my kids when they ask a direct question. and i am very careful not to talk down about their dad. when i feel like i am about to i leave the room or go for a walk or something.
i will go out of my way to avoid his house. i dont go out with friends so i avoid seeing him. i go out of my way to make sure he has either a gift or card for his birthday and christmas. if i know he will be at a school function i make sure i give him his space. i deserve the same respect.
he doesnt care about what he is doing to us. it is all about control, he had control over me for 15 years. the way he treated me, he is starting to treat my daughter. and my daughter is terrified of her dad. she is afraid to make him mad cuz she is afraid he will hurt her just like he hurt me.
i have had all of us in counseling for the last 18 months.
any ideas on gettin our space would be greatly appreciated.
Thank you
We were divorced on October 1, 2007. we were seperated since March 5, 2006. in that time he has had several girlfriends and has brought them around my kids. A new one every other month or so.
A new bar/grill opened in my home town. i asked him if he could not go to this place and let me have one place i can go to without worring about seeing him with his girlfriends. he said he would.
my mother took my kids and myself out to the new grill for supper. everything was going great. untill he walked in with the new girlfriend. my daughter was in tears. she was so embarrassed.
my kids went over to talk to him, they asked first. my daughter came back to the table and said he needed to talk to me. she went back over to his table to tell him something and he said again he really needed to talk to me.
he played our daughter and myself. for me to go over and show off his new "friend".
just about everyday i see him. either driving by my place, when i leave class, when i am at work. i moved to another town to get away from him and he wont leave me alone.
when i call the cops on him they go and talk to him and he says he is conducting business, at 10:30 at night, in a residential district.
i can't move on with my life, with him "stalking" me. whenever i do start seeing someone he finds out and has a "chat" with the new guy and i never hear from him again.
can anyone give me some ideas. i am real close to moving away, but if i do that he will get my kids. that is what he wants, is for me to dissapear out of my kids' lives.
my oldest and my youngest have expressed they want to live with me and my middle child has expressed he wants to live with his dad.
my oldest was witness to a lot of the abuse. she has also said she is so afraid to have a boyfriend because she is afraid they will treat her just like dad treats me. she cant date anyway, not for another 2 years.
she sees they way her dad puts his "friends" before her and her brothers. she also sees they way he is "buying" their love. it makes her sick. it also ticks her off that he doesnt pay any support, she asked if he payed any support and i told her the truth.
i wont lie to my kids when they ask a direct question. and i am very careful not to talk down about their dad. when i feel like i am about to i leave the room or go for a walk or something.
i will go out of my way to avoid his house. i dont go out with friends so i avoid seeing him. i go out of my way to make sure he has either a gift or card for his birthday and christmas. if i know he will be at a school function i make sure i give him his space. i deserve the same respect.
he doesnt care about what he is doing to us. it is all about control, he had control over me for 15 years. the way he treated me, he is starting to treat my daughter. and my daughter is terrified of her dad. she is afraid to make him mad cuz she is afraid he will hurt her just like he hurt me.
i have had all of us in counseling for the last 18 months.
any ideas on gettin our space would be greatly appreciated.
Thank you
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