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He withdrew all money, closed my acct

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Hi everyone, need some advice. He went to bank last week and withdrew all money, removed his name from acct, put stops on my atm and visa check card. I wrote him a long letter telling him I have contacted a lawyer (a woman) and he cant do all that. In short, he came to me this morning after finding lots of my paperwork documenting his behavior along with my questions for the lawyer, and he claims to have seen a psycologist yesterday and asked me if I am willing to still do marriage counseling. I am really mad right now, just got a pep talk from my doctor. He has my son right now (possibly driven him without the car seat that is in MY car), of course he claims to have borrowed moms. I made an appt with the lawyer in 2 weeks, but I need to stay focused here no matter what he comes up with...HELP. Anyone wanna offer what he may be thinking cuz I cant guess anymore. I was afraid he would come home drunk last night after finding my papers (which I do have copies of elsewhere outside the house), but he didnt, to my surprize. I dont know where he spent his day yesterday, havent asked due to fear of response. I need help. I am feeling really nervous, and he was asking me about "my plans for thanksgiving". He always works, so I figured I would take my son somewhere fun (since we have no family except my psycho in laws, NOT doing it !). I am afraid he will pull the whole 'but my family wants to see him for the holiday". Help, feel like I am regressing back into the whole brainwashed mode.
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Not sure if laws are different in your state, but if both names are on the account, he can do what he wants......it sucks he is being that that to you
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I don't think he can just do that. He seems smart but he will get whats comming to him. Stay strong. You don't deserve this. Remember relationships get messy at the end. You are not alone.
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My husband did the same thing to me only he also drained $130,000 for the equity line on our home! So far there is nothing that I've been able to do about it. When it comes to settlement time in divorce court, he'll have to explain himself and possibly pay me back but until then I'm SOL. You should start right away researching your accounts. Create a paper trail of money that he has taken. Keep a journal with dates and times. All of this will be helpful if and when you divorce.
Good Luck!
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Check with a lawyer in your state. I just myself got an appt. for next week..cancelled 2 because the first lawyer wanted $75. This lady is FREE for the consult.
Find a WOMAN lawyer. Men can be OK...but from all I have seen, women are more understanding.
I have a joint acct. with my hubby...and I even initially opened it without him...added him later and yet I am told I CANNOT take him off the account nor CLOSE it! He may have forged your name! If so...you have him by the groin! Check into it and DON'T delay and yes...put those copies in a SAFE place. These SOB's are SNEAKY!
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My husband started doing this as well. I still need to make an appointment with a lawyer and definitely keep it. Above all keep that legal appointment. My husband never changed his will, so his first will leaves the house to his adult son even though we've been married 19 LONG years and have our own child. When I found out he couldn't be trusted I opened my own checking and savings account and have my son listed as a beneficiary and have opened accounts jointly with my family.
Trust your instincts and protect yourself.
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My husband bounced thousands of dollors worth of checks. However, I went to the bank, explained to them what he did, and the put his name into the "check system" so that he can't open any other accts. I still had to pay for the checks he bounced (only the checks not the fees) and the bank is letting me pay it off as I can, without putting my name into the check system. Which means I can open an acct and he can't at Any bank in the US. He basically screwed himself. Stay focused, I know it's hard, but try. I have had a horrible 3 weeks, but am having a better day today.
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