I had a long conversation with my hubby the other night where he confessed to me that i no longer turn him on, he says that he thinks im a beautiful woman and that i have never looked better since he met me, he also says that he is aware that any man would desire me but being that we have been together so long tht he no longer feels the desire , urge to be sexual, i can understand to certain extend, i too feel that the sex isnt the same even when we have it but i dont give up there i always try to find ways to make it interesting , he just doesnt budge. Is hard to listen to things like that, you start wondering if he is going to start cheating etc and it scares me , he says no, that he wouldnt do that to me and that he strives to be a better person everyday and i believe him , i do , but it still scares me deep down. I want to feel desirable , wanted and i dont feel that way with him and that is also a battle i have to face and work on , and im scare to face it. He also brought up that he doesnt like how i dress, with thight jeans and that when a woman dresses that way she is craving sexual attention and do it to attract other men. That is certaintly not why i dress that way. I do it because for one , i buy clothes my size and i feel good about myself. I carry myself well and thats all that matters. It doesnt mean nothing to me when other men look , my man looking at me and noticing me is all i need. He tells me im lying when i say this but truthfully i am not. Now im willing to compromise and try not to wear pants that are snug on me but i would also feel as im changing who i am because he feels insecure. How is that fair? Please offer me your opinions im really struggling with this ... thanks to all !
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