I firmly believe that we get so used to living in sick behavior patterns, that is especially true of living in abuse, and I do firmly believe that a Game Plan is essential... even if you cannot get out now, you should have a game plan for your life, some goals that make you feel less like a victim, even little ones, that will make you feel successful. We do have take some responsibility for our situation. We accepted too much unacceptable behavior and it is up to us to change that. I don't care if it is something so simple as just NOT getting into it with someone who is ranting and raving at us. WHY bother? WHY? they are NOT in their right mind. many times they are drunk or really irrational in their thought patterns, that feed their compulsive need to control and dominate. Our own kids do this to us.... come on people...how many of us are willing to admit our kids can wrap us around their little finger and totally hang a guilt trip on us? We do have feet. We can do a simple thing like walk away, and not be manipulated. period. We can choose to surround ourselves with more positive than negative things. I don't care if it is just a good book from the library, a nice bubble bath, a good smelling candle, a nice manicure or a massage, heck, my supermarket often has bouquets of flowers for $3.99. What the heck is $3.99 if it makes us smile and adds some beauty to our day? REALLY. I think a healthy schedule for our day is important too. Eating at regular times, finding 15 or 20 minutes in our day just for us, to meditate, pray or just deep breathe, go for a short walk. All these little things add up, give us a sense of more control over our lives. Can anyone else think of positive ways to get a good game plan for your day or your week or your life?
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