After years of emotional and verbal torment, my future ex-husband has already found someone new. He kept telling me he had "changed", and was no longer angry. He had refused many times to attend counseling sessions with me or our son. I was so relieved to finally have the courage to leave, but when he found someone new, it just brought up old feelings again. Why did he have to instill terror in me, but now seems happy and almost decent to someone else? I was afraid to sleep with him every night, so I waited until he went to bed before I went. I'm very frustrated that he wreaked havoc in my life for so long, but now has simply "moved on". I'm left with feelings of inadequacy and abandonment. He's not. It just doesn't seem fair. He only "hurt" me once a few years ago when he was trying to take my cell phone away from me. He apologized and never touched me again, but intimidated me with looks and actions. And screamed a lot.
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