I took my son's biodad back to court because we'd never formalized our agreements. He told me to leave it that way, and he'd voluntarily pay me $150 a month, at least. He said he couldn't afford any more than that and that he didn't want the State to collect it. I said fine. He never paid one dime. Then he kept asking for more things. He moved 95 miles away across state lines. He asked me to do half the driving. I said no. So he kept our son and made me drive. He'd never buy him any clothes or pay for anything for school! He'd make my son pack his own bag to stay there. My son's been recently diagnosed with some emotional problems. Plus he's active in other activities. I took him to court purely to formalize my sole physical and legal custody. After son's biodad had a rage attack at me, I changed my phone number and told him to get his son a cell phone. He wouldn't and said he didn't think he should have to. He has no way to get a hold of me so he calls our mutual friend. Before court when he got served, he left rage messages. After court when I was awarded full physical and legal, he made 5 death threats, all recorded, both to my friend and to my b.i.l. to kill me and our son. According to the courts he can't see our son until we set up visitation and that's not until March. He is pissed at me about this! What did I do? I didn't have control over the date. And I won't call him because he's an ass, but since I don't want to call him, I can't tell him that's why I won't call him. He needs to settle down and be civil. Today's message he said "You need to be an Adult here and let me know how to get our son's Christmas and Birthday presents to him, since I can't see my son until March, but we'll talk about that one in court, then I'll get to tell them the real truth about what's going on."
It's his own fault! I don't know what to do, if he would be a MAN in the first place none of this would have happened. It helped that 7 years ago I had an Order for Protection, which he's totally mad at me for getting. People, I was only asking for $150 a month, and to tell the truth the reason I left is because he was a bully and the reason I agreed was because he was a bully but you know what? He's still a bully and nothing I do will make him stop being a bully! I don't know what to do!