
Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group
Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.

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Does anyone else have this problem?
I am 100% certain that every aunt, uncle, cousin, brother, sister, parent, etc. KNEW I was being abused as a child.
What is up with these "relatives" that rewrite history?
They pretend that Grandma was a "good woman" who had only the best interest of her family at heart.
Oh, Puuuuuuulllleeeeaasseee...
Would they be so forgiving had it been them or THEIR child?
I am so sickened by their lack of concern and obvious cover up that I could scream.
Is it really bad that I no longer want to see or hear from any of them as long as I live????
Jo
I am 100% certain that every aunt, uncle, cousin, brother, sister, parent, etc. KNEW I was being abused as a child.
What is up with these "relatives" that rewrite history?
They pretend that Grandma was a "good woman" who had only the best interest of her family at heart.
Oh, Puuuuuuulllleeeeaasseee...
Would they be so forgiving had it been them or THEIR child?
I am so sickened by their lack of concern and obvious cover up that I could scream.
Is it really bad that I no longer want to see or hear from any of them as long as I live????
Jo
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Now about the rest of the family knowing about the abuse. All I can say is that unless the rest of the family witnessed the abuse first hand, it is possible that they do NOT know about it. I know that is hard for both a victim and the general public to believe, but I know because I have been in the middle of it. It was more than 6 years after my escape from my abusive husband that I learned the extent of the abuse to my daughter. I knew that he was getting "heavy handed" with her, and that is what gave me the courage to leave him, but I knew nothing about how bad he was beating her and sexually abusing her. I still don't know the extent of all of this, and I may never know because she has pretty much cut me out of her life, because I did not "protect" her from him. I really did not know how bad it was for her, and she could never come to me because he had threatened to kill her. I'm not sure how I was supposed to know, because none of this was done when I was there. Bruises and sore muscles were explained as a "sports" injury.
All I can say, is that when people start talking about how wonderful she is, your comment can be, "sorry, but I just don't remember her that way because she was not good to me." If they object, you can follow up with specifics. While I understand your desire to cut them out, trust me when I say that they may NOT know and just need to be educated. Perhaps you were not the only one. Do you know of anyone else who was abused?
Daddy never said so, but he was a very quite and shy person and he did not appear to have a lot of warmth for his mother.
The fact that people did not address the issue of my abuse does not surprise me. After all, MY parents left ME in HER care.
Being the "good people" the relatives were, why would they want to interfere in my being raised by a child abuser?
It was the 1950/1960's and people turned a blind eye to what was happening.
I think that society is changing and now protects the victims of abuse more than in the past.
Jo
My extended family knew my father was "strict" and hit us, they never witnessed nor saw the severe abuse. They all had suspicions, but no one ever had the courage to find out for sure. They were all afraid. Family dynamics are interesting in the best of times, but when one member dominates or controls the others by various means it can get bizarre.
My own relatives have all come out firmly supporting me.....I didn't think they would even beleive me when I told them........but they did. Most have expressed sincere regret for not stepping in, for not investigating.
It wasn't until I told them the depth and breathe of the abuse, did they truly know.