Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group

Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.

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I got out of a 2 year relatiomnship that mas torture after I thought I was heasled I went off an got attacked last night. Im back at the shelter for battered women. How many failures are to many
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Don't think of it as YOUR failure, but rather it is HIS failure to treat women as a human being. What would be good for you is counseling so that you can learn some of the warning signs in the future and avoid the guys that are abusive. It can give you some insight on what may be attracting you to them. Remember, they are charmers and can seem like the perfect catch at first. It usually escallates to abuse after you are hooked and have a lot of emotional investment.

Not all nice and charming guys end up as abusers though, so you really need to arm yourself with information. The only specific advice I can give you right now is to wait a while before you get into another relationship. Sort things out, see a counselor and wait until you feel confident that you can tell when they are falling for YOU, not for the fact that you are in love with them.
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You are NOT a failure. I use to have an invisible sign over my head that read "sucker". I attracted vipers who drained me of everything I was and had worked for.
I never considered myself a failure. I knew I had to discover the root of my beliefs and change them. It took years!
LindaJean
LindaJean
I agree with Highbi - who we attract has everything to do with who we are and how we see ourselves. I have had good relationships and I have had bad ones. It was when I was in a good emotional place that I attracted the good men who were not abusive.
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LET THE SOB GET COUNSELING, YOU GET OUT THE TEN FOOT POLE...IT'S TIME!
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