Does anyone else share this experience? I am the one who left my ex because he was verbally and emotionally abusive to me and my children. I was open to a seperation given that he was willing to work and change. I finally had to file for divorce and cut off from him because all he did was manipulate me. He asked me what I wanted him to do so he could do it and get me back, but he would not in his heart admit that anything he had done hurt me or the kids. He has to be right all the time and so anyway, its all me. I left, I filed, I am the one living in sin, etc. etc. So his latest thing is he has found a woman at the church we used to go to together. She is very sweet and nice, a perfect victim for him. She has no idea what she is getting into. But he is appearing in public and making sure he is seen by my very good friends. I think if he really just was lonely, he would be considerate of the kids, at least. But I think his motivation is to try and hurt me and get to me. But I feel suprisingly calm about it all. It is like watching a little kid. If anything I feel sorry for the girl he is seeing because I don't want her to go through what I did. but my kids go to school with her kids and this is going to be hard on them. It pisses me off that he is so self-centered that he doesn't even consider them. We live in a small town and this is going to be all over before long. Up to now only my closest friends were even aware of the divorce. Anyone else out there have an ex who seems to do stuff to try to make you jealous, or see what you are missing kind of attitude. What is so sad is that I truly loved this man and for twenty years tried to do everything to make the marriage work. As soon as I said that he needed to make some changes to make life at least bearable for us- it was no way. I can't believe what a totally self-centered man he is!! He threw us away for his pride. Tamra
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