My boyfriend has borderline personality disorder, which is very difficult for me. He blames himself inside but outside lashes at me. He's never hit me in anger. He calls me names on occasion or drops the F U which i hate. He gets mad at me when i get online and dont email him. But when i get on to talk to him, he barley talks. He doesnt listen to me when i have something to say like a blurb about my day, but if i mention something i did on a different day he gets mad for me not telling him anything and accuses me of possibly cheating on him. He is my first boyfriend and i am 19 so my love is strong at the moment. I started reading a book called "Walking on eggshells" and it told me not to let him get away with what he says, I shouldnt just take it like i usually do and easily forgive him. I have a problem trying to communicate my feelings to him because he is so manipulative and sees nothing wrong in what hes doing. Most of the time is good though, tahts why i remain with him. Just since he moved back home we have been having issues because were 900 miles apart. When people have BPD they have abandonment issues, so the distance makes him think im going to leave him when hes the one that left ( not broken up ). Things are difficult, does anyone have any tips on how i can not take what he says personally. The accusations i can prove him wrong on, how i can tell him i wont cheat on him. Me going back to college was difficult for him because he thinks im going to find someone else. He clings to me in the way that pushes me away by making me feel bad for him like i did something bad and i need to make it right. When its usually the opposite.
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