Hi everyone, I am a mom of 3 beautiful kids and we need your help! I have no clue who I am anymore! Anytime my husband and I get into a fight, he calls me disrespectful, inconsiderant, bitch. A couple of examples: My oldest daughter isn't his, but she we have been with him since she was 4, she is now 9! Anyways. Her biological father lives in Florida (we live in GA) and he gets her on the week of Christmas every other year, well this year was his first time getting her for that week and my first time not having my daughter on Christmas Day (very hard time dealing with) anyways, something came up and he wanted to drive up to GA and pick my daughter up the day after Thanksgiving and keep her till Sunday, in return we (my husband and I) would have my daughter for the whole Christmas Break! Well I jumbped on it with both feet, I said hell yes, that is fine!! Well that night I told my husband about it and thinking he was going to be happy and excited about it, he called me an inconsiderant bitch, because I didn't speak with him before telling her dad ok! Was I being inconsiderant? Another example: He claimed I was being disrespectful because I bought our son a $2.00 ball and didn't tell him! Was this disrespecting him somehow? Am I really stupid?? He tells me I am not being a good mother because I will not make the kids redo, redo and redo there chores over and over before going to help them. I have been told by family and friends that he is being controling! Is that what I am dealing with now? I constantly wonder if I do this how will he react, if I do that how will he react? Its like walking on eggshells constantly. I'm not sure what to do, some things happened and really has me concerned about what may be in store! For some this part will be a repeat because I posted under "Family Issues" Need Advice? on Jan 29th, but he grabbed my wrist and pulled me against the table trying to take food from me that I was feeding to our 2 year old son, because he had taken his plate away a little bit earlier! IS that a sign of abuse starting? Is he going to oneday get more aggressive and do something worse? We constantly fight about the way he speaks to the kids.. He cusses them, he has called my oldest daughter "a fucking liar" "a selfish little bitch" (She is only 9) and the list truly goes on and on. I do not want any of the kid growing up in this, but I am a stay at home mom and can't land a job for the life of me! I find myself yelling at the kids all the time because I am so frustrated and have no clue how to handle any of this. I could leave and move to Florida with my parents, but that isnt fair for my 2 youngest, who adore there dad so much! If anyone out there can relate or give any advice on this please please do! I truly need to hear from you. Thank you all for being here!
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