I've been on this site off and on for 6 months or so. My husband is emotionally and occasionally phycially abusive. I think he has a real personality disorder. I've been in counseling and have been getting more depressed and desparate because the behavior hasn't changed. He doesn't even seem to really see how damaging he is. He mocks me, discounts all my feelings, says i'm crazy, witholds approval and affection and drinks a lot leading to breaking things and shoving me and twisting my wrists. We have been separated about a week and finally yesterday he says he'll go to counseling but after all this time (3yrs!)I felt I needed a little time to make sure he would follow through (he's made these promises many times before) and to get my feelings straightened out. Last night he started giving me ultimatums and said I should decide yes or no on our marriage now, that he wanted to move on and sited lack of sex since we've been separated as a major factor! He said he wanted to have girls over to his apt like a normal single guy. He was so cold and unemotional I can't believe he is so uncaring. How can you go from loving your wife to having girlfriends in one week? I'm very lonely with no friends or family nearby. How do I cope? I do I make new friends?
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