Ive read the can,rarely, but if they want to and understand what they are doing is wrong. I would call his bluff-take his silence as a break up and get on with your life now you have said all you wanted to. Or you could ask him weather he intends to change and sees his previous behaivour as wrong. I confroned my pertner in this way and he said-you deserved all you got i'd do it agin. All our problems are your fault ect..
So its been two weeks and im litterally dusting of my hands and getting on with my life.
Has he ever respected you? Has he ever loved who you trully are?
Is he worth the heartache?

They can change, but it's rare. It's also hard for them to change.

They never change. I was in a similar relationship. We have a son together and have not been together for over 1 year now and yet he still talks down to me like anything I say and feel does not matter. I don't let him control me anymore, I am single now. You are lucky he doesn't call anymore, I wish I didn't speak to my ex, the negetivity is draining. I understand how you feel and I wish you the best of luck.

your post gives me a insight to where my life is headed i am in love with a man just like this and cry everytnight night askign myself this same question... do they change.. i wish i could help but all i can do is say " i feel ya sister"

I feel your pain I to am in your exact position but I live with him. Be glad you dont have contact with him at the moment. I hate to say this but the only thing that guys like this do is get worse.

Hi all, I to have a problem in my New marriage and we only hve been married for 10 months.My Husband trys to control me by making threating remarks. See I use to work in the same place as my Husband and he has been there 3 yrs and my Mother has been there 24 yrs but I oly was there for 2 yrs. Anyhow when me and my husband would get into a fight he would bring my past into it because I wa stupid and told him about my last marriage and my husband does not like my Mother because she has him figured out. What iam getting at is he would complain about how nosy my My Mother and when I would stand up for self he would say well iam going to report your Mother and all her co-workers for taking illegal smoke breaks and get them fired. Another thing he ould always bring up my ex-husband to my face all the time and tell me how i am cheating on him and sneaking off to see my ex. Also my Daughter has a problem with Pain Pills which i take and she is always asking for me to give her some because her back is bothering her and I told her well if u have a problem see your own doctor and I have trying o get hr to get some help. My daughter is a grown Women and i an not do anything for her but give her motherley advice. Well my Hyusband has been giving me a really hard time with her visiting me and I want to see my grandchildren and try to spend Quality time to try to help my daughter out and all my new husband keeps telling me well I dont want her over here anymore and he said he will call the cops on her so he will get hes way by trying to keep her away and he does nothing but cut my family down to me all the time. Just the othr day my Husband told me he wants m all to his self and everytime I want some time to myself and to get away buy taking a drive to walmart or tell him Iam going to visit my mother which is once a week for 1 hr to 2 hrs he has a hessy and tells me well than iam taking off for the day and he laughs like he enjoys being mean to me. He mocks me and treats me like I wa his little girl that is only 8 yrs old and talks toi me like iam stupid and cuts down everything I say no matter what it is. As soon as my Lawsuit is over which will be by the summer I am finuished with the abuse and i will file for Divorce because i was verbally abused and mentally abused by my step-father and several Husbands and iam finish with marriage and men for a very long time plus Iam etter off staying single. I am getting disability soon due to grand-mal seizures which I get veryi sick fromn. I talked to my Mother and she though it was a good idea as well, when i get my lawsuit money I plan to pay off my vehicle pay 2 yrs of Insurance and buy me a nice 5th Wheel and park it in her back yard for awhile so I can get a head start on starting over. I believe I can make it and get away from the abuse once and for all. My husband started the abuse and his controlling abuse ha goten worse since then, thank god so far he has son gotten Physical with me and Iam not going to 3wait around to find out. My ov is totally gone for him and i do not trust him what so ever, I know for a fact I will have no peace untill i get out. Another thing everytime h argues with me and threatens me he goes out and spnds alo of money on me so I will forgive him, he feels buyung me off will get me to forgive him, well little does he know it does not work. I sure could use a friend and I would love to be your friend and help as much as I can with whomevr is experiencing things lij iam and I welcom advice. anniemarie-e-mail address anniemarie65@yahoo.com

they can and do sometimes change, but i don't ever recommend anyone wait around for them to do so. it isn't worth the pain and misery to be with them, and then...many just never change. i know for a fact they can change, though. i saw my dad change with how he treated my mom.

Can they change? I honestly don't know. I pray they can. My husband is in jail now and has been for the last 4 weeks. He is looking at 6 years. Now that he is sober he says he sees what he has done is wrong and wants to change. First for himself and then for me and our kids. My question is, does he really want this or is he just saying this so that he doesn't lose me?

The ones who change are rare.

They rarely change. The odds are highly against them changing and I would move on and away from this person.

from what i've seen they have to hit a bottom in their life to realize what they really had... and when they do you must decide if it's for real or not... then they must build back the trust they lost... but girl, that's a tough one...i am there too but its my baby dad so i'll never get him out of my life... but you are in my prayers...