We have three dogs, one is a puppy. I was getting them all ready for a walk yesterday, putting on their leads, and i asked my husband for help as they were being a bit of a nahdful and getting in and out of the puppies travel box. He ignored me and was doing his own thing. Then all 3 got into the puppies box for travelling (they're small!) and started to fight as there were too many of them in the same small space, i tried to get them out and asked, in a panic now, for some help, he came over, grabbed and tipped the box upsides down and started shaking it to get them out. My hand was then trapped in there with the dogs falling onto it and wedging it to the side, and i was worried the dogs would get hurt. He yelled at me to get my hand out, i couldn't respond as i was inhaling in shock/pain. Eventually they all came out and ran off, the one breathing panickedly. I said to him 'you scared them' and he replied 'a bit of fear never hurt anyone, it gets the blood pumping.' A chill went down my spine. His over-reaction was bad and his explanation was horrible. It made me think to our future and having children and what if his answer to situations will always be heavy handed and the attitude that fear is ok. He later appologised for hurting my hand and over-reacting, but i can't shake the way he handled it and his comment about fear. Iguess up until now i've always just thought of how his (over) reactions effect me, but when it effected the dogs it was different, and that in turn made me think of children (which he wants sooner and i later, a point we argue on).
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