So, haven't talked to my dad reguarly for six years now, we have emailed once or twice for insurance purposes, ran into one another once (Bad...), and he called me once to check in. Now he wants a relationship and seems to have change, like the whole, "I never meant to hurt you." is different now. My question is, if I don't want my kids in the furture to even know he exists, if I dont want him to walk me down the aisle, but I'm okay with just emailing him, should I even try? Honestly what I would get, a little bit of money, some sense of family, chance to be a big sis, these are all things I don't need.... I'm just so confused on what forgiveness is, he's still the guy who hit my mom, because she hit him, because he was cheating on her while they were married, but, she married him even though he cheated on her before they were married....who's right in that situation?, is he still supposed to be considered a bad guy? He's still the guy that will say now, "I thought that your mother was at least a good mother and that she loved you.", but he should have taken me with him when he left us because I was living in very unsannitary conditions, he didn't like the conditions so he left, yet left the nine year old in them? He should have taken me too, despite if I wanted to go or not, but he never even asked... Thoughts?
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