Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group

Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.

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Children and learned behaviors

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I need to hear from others wether or not their children react very strangely still, after escaping the bad enviroment, in result behaving just like their former abuser(s). Thus pushing or scaring away potential healthy relationships. I cant be the only one here. Gods! my kids totally regressed in their manners ,respect everything after a**hole was gone. I am doing my best but am very frustrated right now cuz, i have'nt read much on this topic yet anywhere. Please We are in therapy but it is so slow and I dont have the balls yet to go except to family sessions. I need feedback.-trgrl99
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Wow I thought my first post did'nt work, oh well I do need to know and did need to get all these thing off my chest.
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My daughter basically became her dad after he died. She talks to me just like he did. I would expect that out of a son but not a daughter. My son is the one who actually pointed out to me that she sounded just like her Dad.You are NOT alone ok.

Hugs,
Jade
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It does take a while for change to take place. People have to relearn behaviour from the one they have been. They have to be exposed to different ways of behaving and different people to understand that abusing is not normal so take them to places and show them some good people that are fun and loving to be around. And have patience. Look at them with love in your heart and shine it out to them from your eyes. Lots of love will heal all situations. Just let them know they are loved.

Thinking of love for your children will do wonders. Hope you try this.
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I am 42 and still have some affects from the abuse of childhood .It takes a lot of time and love to repair the damage ,the most important thing is to encourage good behaviour and while you discipline bad behaviour make sure they do not feel rejected .I give a hug with a lecture so they know its the behaviour I hate not the child ...talk to some one about YOU too so you can be at your best while dealing with the stresses of parenting, hard enough with out the added problems...o0h and ofcause you are not the only one ...
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i must say to that, That my dad is an emotional abuser and i have picked up on some of his trates..i dont realise that i am really doing it.
but i tihnk children can pick up on the behavers
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