Girlie, I know it's almost been 24 hours without a response, but that is because this is a very difficult question. The bottom line is that she has to realize that she is being abused. She may understand that she lives in fear, she may understand that she walks on egg shells, but it is still a huge stretch to be on the inside and connect all those dots and figure out you are being abused. Part of it is denial, most of it is survival. I honestly don't know of a sure fire way to get her to realize it. You can be there for her and care for her, and when she is at her lowest, you can possibly convince her then. I wish I knew what else to say. My prayers are for you and your mother.

Well, the first step is to heal yourself. You're grown up now, and you can't do anything about the past, and you can't do anything about your mom. It's painful, yes. She felt she had to make a decision. The best thing you can do is get help for yourself now and heal. You're in a position, hopefully, where you can take control of your life and make the decisions that are best for you, and learn, that those are not the same as your mother's and that you learned, to not do what she did. You can't reason with some ppl, it's just something you're going to run into from time to time, you've got to choose to accept, or walk away, whatever's healthy for you. I hope you have a blessed day

Take her to volunteer with abused children. Sometimes it is an eye opener for most people. I volunteered it was helpful to me and I was never in the situation.

Take her to volunteer with abused children. Sometimes it is an eye opener for most people. I volunteered it was helpful to me and I was never in the situation.