Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group

Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.

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cant breathe

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feel so scared tonight cant breathe feels like walls are closing in, had a nightmare of all the beatings felt sooo real
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Please keep telling yourself you are safe now if you are out of the relationship. These dreams are memories that will subside with time. If they persist I would contact someone like a therapist or counselor that can help you work through them. Many hugs to you as I have been there and know how upsetting this can be.
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I can't breathe either. But I will. I am starting therapy soon.
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What you are having is a flashback. This is a common symptom of PTSD which is something many abuse survivors have. Please see a doctor soon who can get you diagnosed and on a round of meds and/or therapy that will help control the anxiety, flashbacks and depression.
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I have been there too and it got to the point where I couldn't sleep. I have found a few things that have helped me were to sleep with the TV on - it gave me a kind of comfort - nothing major, like Full House, Goerge Lopez, kind of no-brainer shows. I also keep a notepad by my bed and I write down things when I wake up or can't sleep. I write down how I feel, I write down the dream, I write down the flashback ... sometimes that helps as well. Good luck and keep using this site - it helps as well.
queenvalerie
queenvalerie
revpatty is right, what you are having is flashbacks to your abusive relationship. I had them too. Only mine happened in public. I could feel the pain, I could see his face, I could feel the anger coming off him in waves. Every punch, slap, bruise, rape...it was all real in that moment. Try HARD to remind yourself, out loud if you need to, that this isn't real. That it's part of your past that you need to deal with but that right at this moment you are safe and sound. Take a few deep cleansing breaths and tell yourself, over and over and over again that this is a flashback.

xcountry has a good idea there. I slept with the tv on the Weather channel. It's so repetitive that you stop paying attention after a while and that insipid music is very calming.
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Oh my sweetie. It is so very tragic that you have gone through this. Its tragic that anyone has. I mean the destruction these guys leave behind is unbelievable. You keep strong and remember we are all here sweetheart!
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I wish I could help somehow, that makes me want to cry for you...and me.
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