Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group
Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.
i don't know how many read my original reaaally long question but to make a looong story short, my husband has ignored my feelings, hurt my feelings, cursed me out, humilated me, went out drinking w/ other women, listend to hard metal rock and sang out verses that had to do with 'slut', 'gonna die tonight', just a variety of crap lyrics, verbally abused my daughter out of the house, felt he could tell me what to wear, who to hang out with, who to talk to, and so jealous at times he would call or email me 20 times in a hours time and if i didn't respond he would start calling my employees wanting to know where I was, finally i gave up, i had an affair, makes me puck to even think about it but at the time i thought he'll just leave, nope...he told me how much he loved me and wanted to work things out...it's been a year and 1/2 of hell and just the other day he wrote me an email saying that he NEVER screwed around on me and then listed 5 women, all the ones i used to beg him not to hang with, he either kissed them, discussed detailed sex with them, hung out laughing with them while they had no panties on, etc..then went on to say, but I NEVER SCREWED around on you, i'm not built like that... I started going to DVIS so i could get support to get away from him and now, he just tells me, i don't want to be with you, i used to think you were a beautiful, wonderful women but not anymore. I just feel so empty and broken inside. For 10 years, i've been with a man thats never truley cared for me or loved me, how do i start over?
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Have you considered a divorce and moving out? You must be heart broken, and if it's any help, let me tell you, he is probably a disturbed person and I don't think you deserve that kind of treatment. He might be your husband and a person you loved deeply, nut always remember that just because someone didn't see how much you are worth doesn't mean you are not worth something. I hope it gets better. HUGS!
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Thank you for the reply, at this point i just feel so very alone. i have ALOT of people at my job and my family all supporting me but for some reason i still love this man. I try to write down reasons of why I can not and I fight to be anything but cold shouldered. I know his niceness one day is replaced with meanness the next. To answer your question, yes, I am in the process of getting an attorney to file. i just dont understand why i still care, it's obvious he doesn't nor ever did.
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I really feel for you, leaving takes time psychologically as well as physically, after living with an abuser your self esteem is very low, so....your own judgement can be very blurred and you can start to think in the same cycles you had in the relationship, hoping, wishing, diminishing the abuse. Give your self plenty of time and start to do totally different things...
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