So I told my husband several times my boundaries he refuses to listen to them. My oldest son is aspergers and has bad tantrums and hard to clam him down or control him. I told my husband I wanted to talk about the kids only with him, so I called to have him help and talk to my son because my son is "afraid" of daddy. Almost imediately he starts berating me telling me if only I could be calm and yada yada yada, not even knowing what happened or how I was trying to handle it. He says I don't know why he only does this to you (because I have them 90% of the time they are afraid of you and you give them what they want when you have them non of which I said to him). He then started on a tirade telling me I had the kids I should raise them, if I wasn't such a bitch for not letting him come over for 10 minutes to pick up his stuff he would help me (boundaries again). He says I don't know why you call me for a problem with "your kids" (um because they are your kids too). He then later goes into this self victimizing role of I treat him like a deadbeat dad he is doing everything for us blah blah blah. I said if I was treating you like a deadbeat dad I would not be involving you in a family issue, so what your saying is do not call you if I have a problem with the kids. He then changed his tone and all of a sudden he wanted to help and give advice. This is so frustrating and rediculous it is like dealing with another unreasonable child.
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