Labels are only incidental.

What we experience in our life is the only thing that's really important.

Furthermore, psychological diagnoses go in and out of fashion.

The point is ----- labels are arbitrary.

They're IRRELEVANT.

Only the way we experience our life is important.

It doesn't really matter what the behavior gets labeled. The only thing that matters is how it effects our life.

You can read all about bipolar, hypomanic, dysthymic depression ------ whatever. It's okay to know about lots of things.

It's what we do with our knowlege and our life that's relevant.

If he maybe bipolar it still isn't your fault. I feel like i've experienced a bad case of bipolar before i got stable on my meds. when i was in those moods i still could control my actions but i couldn't control my thoughts. he can control what he's doing. i went through the same thing with my dad, i believed it wasn't his fault because of the bipolar but i have realized that he and anyone can control their actions with bipolar. I hope this helps. if you would like to talk i'm here for you.

"he may be" ? sound like an evaluration is in order w licensed pdoc.
To find out if he is and which type of BP and/are what type of illness befor plowing thur books etc... for info on illness that may or may not be actual case at hand.

Am partical to state funded mental health centers who offer sliding scale fee and have selcetion of pdoc's & therapest and they provide round trip transportation for thier clients.

On DS there is a support group for BP.

Hes only just been diagnosed still has to go back to doc.
She said type 2 border type 1.
I know there is a DS group but finding it about themselves having trouble finding out about how much this effected what he did.
Being in here i thought others may have had same experience.

If he was recently diog and just started meds it may take 2to 4wks for the meds to be fully benifitual being that correct mg is obtained.

There alot of info on internet pertaining to difrent types of BP.
They seem to have difrent stages within a cycleing cycle.

His pdoc and/are therapeat can answer your question and any questions related to his illness etc...

I have friends & family who work in the medical field and based on converstaion Iv over heard: BP1 can not take anti depressant and should never be prescribed anti depressant for it will drive them boonkers.
At 1st it will lesson the depression, then the botton falls out.

Maybe ? an anxiety medication will lesson his irritation, frustration and/or agression feelings - calm his behavior and it may or may not slow his raceing thoughts if he has moments of raceing thoughts.

Your safty comes 1st. BP is an illness that can be treated and controled with correct meds and correct mg's and with knowing ones self and difrent stages in thier cycle and length of each stage. To reach healthy life w BP takes time but its the only way to have - re gain a helthy & happier life.

I hop-e this has been - is benifitual to you in your own self care.

AusBell, just popped in to BP support group on your behalf. I feel that Acuriosfish - being CL can assist with any questions that you might have.

Hope you had a great wk and that you'll have a wonderful sun filled day.

thanks for the help will check it out..

I know this is years later but if you're still watching... here is my response (as someone with Bipolar)

First he really need to learn about himself. Don't put blame on anyone--there's always two people. But having untreated bipolar can create some erratic behaviors... lots of hot and cold. People don't respond well to this (reasonably so).

Go see the doctor. Look at the DSM diagnostic criteria. and if he do have a mood disorder there are many mood stabilizers. When I was younger I was diagnosed with "Mood Disorder-Not Otherwise Specified" .... it might help, it might not.

From my experience, after being diagnosed and treated for my bipolar I'm able to see what I've done wrong. I'm also able to NOT do it again. My mood is more stabilized and I'm more aware. But don't worry about the label--this is about you and making sure you are okay.

A lot of people are uneducated on mental illness "psychological diagnoses go in and out of fashion"

I, admittedly, was emotional abusive to my boyfriend throughout the years of undiagnosed bipolar. Not extremely abusive but I can see now how much my erratic emotions and behaviors hurt him deeply.

DBT is a great program---even if you just get the information online and you both go through it. It was created for people with Borderline Personality Disorder but there are books for just Bipolar but the entire concept is the same. It is really helpful if you try it.

Good luck. I hope you read this lol