Hi there. I recently was dumped by my on and off boyfriend of 4 years. There were good times, and bad. I left him once initially due to his violent outbursts. We had just gotten a puppy and for no reason he was extremely upset with me. I decided this time I would talk back and he ended shoving me against the kitchen counter, shaking me and screaming "f-u" to me for about 1 minute. I was in complete shock. Not knowing what to do I left...I left the puppy and everything, since he said he would have come after me if I were to take the puppy. We separated for 6 months, and I was so unhappy, I pleaded for HIM BACK. He stated it was my fault for leaving and that I shouldn't upset him and that I had abandoned him, and the puppy. But inevitably we got back together for a year, and his outbursts were still there. Everywhere we went, he would fight with me, yell at me. I was always scared of him after the first occurance, I felt like I couldn't say anything. I wasn't myself and I hated lying to my family, friends, and myself that this was going to work out. He made me apologize for leaving and would say mean things to me. I tried to have him go to therapy but it just didn't work out. After my family was going through some issues I decided to move home and be with my family. He was extremely upset at this, and would never come over since he believed my family hated him. A couple of days ago he broke it off with me saying that our relationship was "doomed" and I never did anything with him. I of course I bargained with him and tried to get back together, but he said no. I went over to his house drunk, and foolish trying to get back together and he threaten to call the cops on me. I feel like a deserve someone better, someone I don't have to fear. But for some reason I still love him and want him back. Any advice would be wonderful. Thanks for listening.
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