I have had a really horrible relationship with my oldest daughter the past 2 yrs. She started dating a guy that was extremely controlling, she stopped taking her depression meds and now life is H*ll...she will be 18 the 27th. I hate what he has done to my daughter. The state got involved, he is under an epo for beating her about 3 weeks ago. When she lived with us, I was hit with a cell phone, slammed against the wall, she put holes in the walls of my new house and has cursed and called me, her dad and her little sister every name imaginable. I had to put her out, she moved in with his family. After the last beating, she left, lived with a friend and found a small studio apartment. I helped her get settled in, thinking this would be a big step forward for her and her independence. It has only gotten worse, not the physical part but the mental crap. Every couple days, I get nasty text messages. If I HAVE to contact her its a living nightmare. She blames me for her boyfriend being in trouble with the state; he has criminal charges brought against him. Bit of background here, she is a senior, he is 23, she worked for a year & gave all her money to him, she got tired of all of it, hence the beating when she left. She filed a police report but refused to sign the paperwork for the charges (kidnapping & battery). All we as parents could charge him with was custodial interference (which is a slap on the wrist). The state picked it up from there and brought the criminal charges, not us. I have thought about packing my stuff and leaving town, changing my cell number and not letting her know where I am, but my youngest doesn't deserve it but I don't deserve being put through this. Part of the problems with her are that she expects everything and gives nothing...when she started the abuse, we took her car (an 89 Olds, far from new) and I revolked her license. We grounded, took cell phones (hence me getting hit) and after the physical part started, she had to get out. I tried getting her into several different programs, and either she was too close to 18 or they had a waiting period that was way to long. People ask why I don't commit her. I would have to have her sedated, placed in the vehicle & drive her there because otherwise it would take someone tying her up to get her there (physical deal again). Thing is, we have never been a physical family. I am very very mentally tired, its affecting my entire life....sorry so long, any feedback?
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