I was in a 19 yr relationship that I abused drugs and alchole. My ex now, was an enabler. I went to treatment because my parents were concerned and I had hit rock bottom. I hated who I was and didn't think I was good for anything. I lasted 7 months with my ex. until the abuse started again but this time I was stronger and I left. We share teenagers together. Just recently he yelled at me on the phone telling me he wants nothing to do with me. It was the same abuse I was use to when he would be hungover. He once bent my little finger back until it broke, You could hear the snap. It was mostly emotional, Telling me I had no friends. Belittling me. I recently have felt that abuse again. I've done something that will make him really pissed off. I went for child support. I let him go for a year without paying. Now they will give it to me a year back from his pension. I'm a little afraid of the faceoff this will cause. I'm happy but scared.