Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group
Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.
In another post I got an answer from a person saying I had 'chosen' to get in a car with my ex when he was drink driving. I thought this poor person has a limited understanding of abusers and how they operate.
First he was sober and in a good mood when I agreed to go to our block out of town and check on it. He hadn't been drinking and didn't fill an portable icebox so I didn't have to think about DD. But on the way to the block he stopped at a drive-in and bought alcohol to swig as he was driving. Now I knew what would happen if I said too much or if I demanded he take me home again, putting up with DD was probably the lesser of two evils. He knew I would not get in the car with him if he was drunk or abusive so I believe he planned this it so that he could have his own way once again without regard to my feelings, concerns or safety. I hope this enlightens that person a wee bit about 'choices'.
First he was sober and in a good mood when I agreed to go to our block out of town and check on it. He hadn't been drinking and didn't fill an portable icebox so I didn't have to think about DD. But on the way to the block he stopped at a drive-in and bought alcohol to swig as he was driving. Now I knew what would happen if I said too much or if I demanded he take me home again, putting up with DD was probably the lesser of two evils. He knew I would not get in the car with him if he was drunk or abusive so I believe he planned this it so that he could have his own way once again without regard to my feelings, concerns or safety. I hope this enlightens that person a wee bit about 'choices'.
deleted_user
sorry he did that to u is it best to stay completely away from him for awhile?
LindaJean
I am sorry someone found it necessary to be critical of you in your other post - that is not what this site is about. We don't need to be reminded that we may have done something that did not turn out well - we need support and help in figuring out how not to do it again. Some people need to spew anger no matter what. I agree with Battyself - maybe staying away altogether would be wise. Good luck with this - and don't let negative people get you down.
deleted_user
We all know how it goes with the manipulation these guys exhibit...sorry you ran across a sour grape! I apologize for this person's ignorance!
deleted_user
I know what you mean I have got some nasty people say stuff in here to me also saying I have deserved everything and how I like it they are just some more of lifes mean people, it was not your fault believe me I know how people go from so nice to so horrible
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