In another post I got an answer from a person saying I had 'chosen' to get in a car with my ex when he was drink driving. I thought this poor person has a limited understanding of abusers and how they operate.
First he was sober and in a good mood when I agreed to go to our block out of town and check on it. He hadn't been drinking and didn't fill an portable icebox so I didn't have to think about DD. But on the way to the block he stopped at a drive-in and bought alcohol to swig as he was driving. Now I knew what would happen if I said too much or if I demanded he take me home again, putting up with DD was probably the lesser of two evils. He knew I would not get in the car with him if he was drunk or abusive so I believe he planned this it so that he could have his own way once again without regard to my feelings, concerns or safety. I hope this enlightens that person a wee bit about 'choices'.