I guess I am curious if anyone else has my problem. My husband has broken my heart multiple times. He has admitted to being emotionally abusive and verbally abusive in the past. He has been much better about the verbal part. He doesn't verbally attack me anymore. But he keeps hurting me and then he apologizes and says he won't do it anymore and then he does. Now this last time he tried to make things right but it's been 12 years of this and I am fed up. So now he does the thing were he says I am not giving him enough attention and I'm not trying hard enough. I think I'm trying. I'm here aren't I. I didn't leave like I wanted to. I mean its only been two weeks since he broke my heart again! How much time does it take to heal. I think I need more time then that. He gets mad that I am not lovey dovey and showing him with attention. I just can't get over the fact that he keeps hurting me. He keeps asking me "what do you do for me". Am I suppose to make a list. Maybe I don't do anything because it is never good enough. He told me today that I only want him as a friend. That he doesn't really get anything that my friends don't get. He isn't verbally abusive anymore but now he just makes little comments all the time. He thinks this is a huge improvement. I'm tired of feeling crappy about myself as a wife. But if I say anything, he pulls the I"m throwing it in his face card. I just need to drop it. I can't stand this. Any advice would help.
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