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A bad day

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He came and got his clothes yesterday. I just closed his closet door so I don't have to look at the emptiness. It hurts but I know it will pass. I had bad dreams last night of him saying hateful things to me. I did not sleep good at all. In fact I overslept this AM and am late for work. But I am sad and thinking about how I used to wake up happy that he was part of my life. NOw I wake up sad and missing him and I realize I need to be happy he isn't part of my life. It has been a month today since I last saw him. Our communication with each other is strained. He is trying to be nice but I see it is just part of his cycle. He tried that crap on me yesterday and almost had me sucked in and then I caught myself and realized it was just part of the cycle. He would say something he is doing nice for me "despite the bad person I think he is." I almost started feeling bad about accusing him of being abusive and saying that he is, and then I caught myself and realized, this is the cycle. He is abusive and this right here proves it. Well, I better get to work, and hope you all have a good day.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I'm sorry you are going through this, honey. I am getting ready to go through it myself, just stay strong, don't let him continue the cycle. You can do it!
jimmysquirrel
jimmysquirrel
no, it's not a bad day. Your perception of it was bad... but i would consider it to be a good day. You woke up... and there is a sun out there, and oxygen in the atmosphere...
Now, on your personal level... though it hurts... it was a good day as well. you saw the truth. You saw how he was being manipulative... and you were able to overcome it. In my book that is a pretty big deal. You might not have a definition of yourself without him yet... but you are on your way.
This while hurting... was a "good day"
deleted_user
deleted_user
You are awesome!!! Remember that - you are awesome... you are a strong person because it takes as strong person to realize it and also to do soemthing about it. I feel your pain - I truly do .. I am only 1 month a little more out myself and I still wake up in the mornings when he used to get out of bed to get ready for work. Stay strong and write things down to reread ... if you get a chacne read the website -- www.heart-2-heart.com/ca and it will make you feel better. I printed it out, highlighted some things and read it whenever I feel like I'm going to buckle. Stay strong and keep writing - we are here for you!!
deleted_user
deleted_user
I know how you feel, as I just went through this two weeks ago. I feel better today, but had some up and down days to deal with. And some really down days. Keep telling yourself you did this so you could not get hurt again. That you deserve to be treated with respect. Someone told me to make a list of all the things he did wrong to me, and when i felt I was missing him, or sad he was gone, look at the list and remember why I told him to leave. It has helped. I wrote a journal on Oct 17th that I read alot as a reminder of what he did to me. You will be ok, stay strong, you were strong to do this and you can be strong to get through it. Need to talk Im here.
psyc
psyc
I think you did wonderful.hang in there hun it will get better. you made the right decision.and in time you will know it youself. take care of yourself your in the right direction.
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