Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group
Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.
So I've been friends with this guy, we'll call him C, since sophomore year in college. Now, newly graduated as of spring, we're the only ones still living in the town where we went to college, for now. We have maintained our friendship/sort of relationship, but there was a point where he was a bit dramatic. Senior year, he tended to get jealous, possessive, and pretty aggressive and verbally very cruel. Now that we're out of college, he profusely apologized and admitted to being a f*ck up. I blamed it on the influence from his friends. So we're kind of back to it again, but with my past experience... I feel like I'm setting myself up for disaster. The truly disturbing part to me is I have a relationship that has been on again off again for 6 years. This guy, we'll call him B, is amazing and I truly and deeply love him with all of my heart. But, it just seems like I'm stuck in this past life of not being able to let go of people who were cruel to me. It's like I want to continuously sabotage myself. I guess I just didn't know what else to do so I'm posting this. Ugh pretty much sums up my feelings...
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
I think it is fair enough to give C a second chance if you can put his bad behaviour down to ill informed youth. It sort of does depend what happened. If he hit you or something I wouldn't bother but we have all acted stupidly and selfishly at some point in our past. If it was minor and he was just a kid at the time, why not give him another chance to prove himself. Maybe he has grown up a bit. Dump him straight away, however, if he shows any signs of being abusive. Don't threaten it, just do it!