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A phobia (from the Greek "fear"), is a strong, persistent fear of situations, objects, activities, or persons. The main symptom of this disorder is the excessive, unreasonable desire to avoid the feared subject. When the fear is beyond one's control, or if the fear is interfering with daily life, then a diagnosis under one of the anxiety disorders can be made.

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Why do i worry what people think?

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I suffer from Sociophobia which means i find it hard to be able to join in conversations or talk to people.
i also have Social Phobia which means im scared of what other people think about me or what people will say about me. i think this is because of being bullied at school.
i Wish i could get over it and be able to go out and not worry that everyone is laugthing at me behind my back. i try and avoid situations where there is going to be people around my age because i worry that they will all gang up against me.
It doesn't help that i have low self esteem and i really have no idea what its like to fit in with people.
does anyone have any ideas how i could start socialising without feeling threatened or anxious. my family say to go out and just get on with it but it hard when i am on my own and i can't exactly bring my mum to socialise with me. my only two friends are away at uni and college so i hardly see them, and when they are home they have coursework to do. :) xxx
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I feel your pain, I really do
I was not exactly bullied at school, but all the 'popular crowd' made it quite clear I didn't fit, so now i'm convinced no-one likes me!
The only advice I can give is to joina group that your interested in or a support group and try and meet like minded people
and take it slowly one small step at a time
xxx
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I have the same problem and I am realizing that this has to do with the way I was treated by my mother and father as an infant. The more feelings I get from this age the easies is getting to socialize with people.

I was bully by my hole family and at school. I did not know that the infancy stage was the time that help you to build connections, after reading this I was able to retrieve the memories from my body.
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Thnkz so much for the advice, i suppose it was from when i was young, i was always bullied or laughed at when i spoke so i stopped speaking to people, i would like to join a local group but not sure where to go to.
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Oh yeah, I can completely relate. I never fit in and I REALLY knew I was different because my sister who was 6 years older was voted most popular. How can two people from the same family be so different? That and how I was treated by my family really screwed me up and still screws me up today. Now I know my parents, by the time they had me, were just too tired to fool with me. I went to school looking like a rag doll. I am in therapy now. I should have been in it a long time ago. It's the best thing I have ever done. Other life tragedies led me to therapy but right now we are focusing on my childhood. For the 1st time I have some hope. I highly recommend it. Also DS helps me a lot. (((hugs))) to you.
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i would suggest just keep joining groups, like this at first the more u do it the better u will feel.
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i know where ur coming from...im at university with social phobia, and ive missd so many classed because of it. its weird, just a few years i was this confident bloke, but i just lost it. and now the idea of going to a lecture frightens the bejesus out of me lol. what helps me the most is to try and correct the thoughts in ur head telling u ur worse than anyone else...because ur not. if anything u should feel better than them because ur worried what they think, which shows u care about other peoples feelings...if u c what i mean lol. i aint exactly great at giving advice :)
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all of the above comments go for me. I was bullied from the time I started school until I finished. everyone made fun of everything I done or said. lately i have tried to just act stupid on purpose and see what the reaction is. It made me laugh. I still need help though.
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ican totally relate. i have exactly the same thing. i was seperated at school and picked on at an early age and then abused by an alcoholic father. i dont know how that effects a person but i think socialization is an important time in life and to be ridiculed at this time probably has devastating impact.
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I'm too self concious. I always worry what ppl will think of me I hate it
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I feel like an outcast and always have and always will. I was picked on in school from grades 7-9 and I still feel like I am living in that. In fact I was cyber-bullied recently and its probably because they picked up my vulnerability. If I can't move past this then nothing will get better for me and I'll always be an outcast no matter what :(
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look at meetup.com and see if they have any social anxiety groups in your area. they are people that get together to socialize. the people have social anxiety disorder so you might feel more comfortable around them and be able to open up. i havent been to a meeting yet but plan to go soon. our group meets at restaurants and other places where there are people around in order to learn socializational skills.
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