
Pet Bereavement Support Group
The loss of a pet or animal to which one has become emotionally bonded can be an intense loss, comparable with the death of a loved one. Whilst there is strong evidence that animals can feel such loss for other animals, this community focuses on human feelings, when an animal is lost, dies or otherwise is departed.

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Our beautiful sweet Maxine: On Friday we made the decision to put her to sleep. She was diganosed with cancer in August a few days ago she just suddenly got worse; frail,thin,sunken eyes and heavy, heavy breathing. We were afraid she would die choking, so after a rough night on Thursday, Friday morning we decided to put her down, called the vet and that was it. I'm so incredibly sad, second guessing what we did, not having the opprotunity to say goodbye. I didn't cherish those last days, I'm so guilt ridden.
The morning we took her in, I had a meeting to go to, I went to the meeting and then took her into the vet and went back to work. It seems so fast and uncaring. Why didn't I stay with her that morning and not go to that meeting?!!?!?!
I'm so sad, my heart hurts. Maxine was always a sickly girl, need care, extra attention, she lived for 12 years, a long life, never complaining about allergy shots or seizure meds and antibiotics and on and on. She was always so loving and full of energy.
How do I go on, I cry all the time.
The morning we took her in, I had a meeting to go to, I went to the meeting and then took her into the vet and went back to work. It seems so fast and uncaring. Why didn't I stay with her that morning and not go to that meeting?!!?!?!
I'm so sad, my heart hurts. Maxine was always a sickly girl, need care, extra attention, she lived for 12 years, a long life, never complaining about allergy shots or seizure meds and antibiotics and on and on. She was always so loving and full of energy.
How do I go on, I cry all the time.
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I cannot forgive myself for taking him in to do the dirty dead. My husband was at work holding the fort down. After I dropped him off, begging him to forgive me, I went right back to work, too. No boss would understand us needing to take time off for a pet.
I cannot get past that I was the one who did it. I WANT A DO-OVER!!! With all my heart. I know you do, too.
We had him cremated so we could keep him with us as we are living in an apartment and burial was not an option. When I went to pick him up, the vet gave me a little ceramic hand print (paw print) to remember him by. I lost it. I totally lost it. I really cried and just about screamed, "Do over, do over!!" But as adults we know there is no do-over, is there??
May God comfort you. And may you talk to Maxine each and every day for she is with you always.
My heart hurts with you. Know you are in my prayers.
I'm very sorry for you loss. I do understand, I want a do-over, I want the opportunity to cherish those last few days, I feel so guilty for thinking Maxine was always going to be there. I knew she was dying, but I acted like it wasn't happening. I should have spent more time with her. I'm so sad and guilt ridden.
I knew for a week or so that he was going to be put down, but it didn't make it any easier. We had been told a few years ago that he had a tumor near his kidneys and might have a year or so left. We had over three with him and had he not become incontinent, I'd still have him now until the end.
That morning I gave him a bath and he actually stood still for me - something he has NEVER done. It was nearly the hardest thing I have ever done - until I had to take him to the vet. I just kept holding him while the paperwork was done. I just kept saying, "I'm sorry. Mommy loves you. Please forgive me".
It is done. There are no do-overs. I think about getting another puppy to fill the void, but then I feel guilty that I should want another, that he would think he was so easily replaced.... the list goes on and on. But you know.....don't you??
Me and my boyfriend are going to be sooooo heartbroken when he passes over!
I feel for your loss sooooo much because of what you said about your doggies strength in being sick on and off! I know things are catching up with him, no matter how strong he tries to be and I DON'T EVER want to take a second for granted with him! EVERY DAY WITH HIM IS PRECIOUS! Because after his stroke and having to give him CPR I knew sadly his days are numbered and he may still fight to stay strong, but I know how bad he must truly feel! But for me, I want to do what I always do and sleep next to him and treasure him and hold him in my arms till the very last second and just show him more, now then ever that I love him sooooo much and I am sooooo proud of his strength through all this! He is amazing!
Know that you loved your dog with all your heart! You might of made a choice, but your doggie isn't mad at you one bit because love is a feeling deep down in the heart and I know that the love between the two of you was like an invisible string connecting your souls together and your doggie felt that love weather near or far!
Dogs are truly in tune with emotions and your doggie knew you said goodbye in your heart and I'm sure your doggie felt that deep, unending love and always will!
Take care,
Stay sane!
I've had to help a lot of people euthanize their family members. I've helped terminally ill people, facing there own death, have to end the suffering of their most loved friend. I've been enraged at people who've demanded I euthanize this pet because he/she doesn't match the new furniture. And I've cried every single time.
When we make the decision to be human and help end the suffering of those pets we love we then accept the sadness as evidence of our love. Proof that we've lost a part of ourselves, something that lived, grew and nurtured with us. What good would all that love be if we could truly appreciate it through sadness. Let yourself grieve and thank God that you have the humanity to be able to experience the relationship you had. A good death is a good death whether you're there or not and that is all that matters. A truly painless, fearless, honest and good death.