I'm not well enought to give you a fluffy answer today...short answer...check out Cognitive Behaviour therapy adn Dialectical BT

i did DBT every time i went into the hospital i cant seem to make it work for me

I have felt this way as well. One begins to think of themselves as a guiena pig. I am on an anti-depressant and a mood stablizer.

As for what has really helped me is behovor modification. I have to make the choice to get out of bed. I have to choose to go to bed when needed. Therapy has also helped me. I have started what is called Dialective therapy. I really don't know if it is going to work...but I'm trying it. If anything I am starting to see my patterns.

Well, if you truely have both diags (BP and BPD) you are in a bit of a pickle.

See, if you have BiPolar you are first treated with meds and perhaps therapy will be a good option for your.
If you are BPD then you are treated with therapy first (such as DBT) and then the possiblity of meds.
Since you suffer from both, a starting point may be difficult.
One of the best things you can do is read the symptoms of both and see which one feels more prevelent at the time. Tell this to your tdoc or pdoc or both. Say you feel more BPD, well you can get treatment for this while the BP is laying more dormant.

Oh and this is just advice... just articles I've read on the internet as we were exploring my diagnosis.

thats a great answer trac....make much sense....

thanks for the help guys

I was reading on BPD, which I also suffer from, and I read that people who suffer often do not respond to their medications. I honestly do not, but I am on a lot of them because I suffer from insomnia. I think that being under a lot of stress, which BPD"S have a low tolerance for, so just try and avoid it if at all possible. I find that music helps me, in a nice quiet place. Reading also sets my mind at ease. Exercising, or breathing exercises are also useful. VACATION!!!