
Personality Disorders Support Group
Personality disorders form a class of mental disorders that are characterized by long-lasting rigid patterns of thought and behaviour. Personality disorders are seen by the American Psychiatric Association as an enduring pattern of inner experience and behavior that deviates markedly from the expectations of the culture of the individual who exhibits it.

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Could we talk about acceptance....
I was diagnosed border line about 2.5 years ago.... Even with 2.5 years of learning about BPD I still struggle with the picture in my head of what borderline is...
I have started DBT and will have my second session tomorrow.... apparently they will cover this topic tomorrow but I wanted to run my feeling past you folks before I speak up in group.... I don't want to hurt feelings....but this is what I see in my head when I think of borderline....
Does anyone else have this picture of BPD... I think of alcatraz sp?, lithium, insane asylum, bars on brick windows... I am afraid to say this in group....
I was diagnosed border line about 2.5 years ago.... Even with 2.5 years of learning about BPD I still struggle with the picture in my head of what borderline is...
I have started DBT and will have my second session tomorrow.... apparently they will cover this topic tomorrow but I wanted to run my feeling past you folks before I speak up in group.... I don't want to hurt feelings....but this is what I see in my head when I think of borderline....
Does anyone else have this picture of BPD... I think of alcatraz sp?, lithium, insane asylum, bars on brick windows... I am afraid to say this in group....
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That said, I guess all we can do is work with what we have. Do the best we can.
(Relief - it is not me being dreadrul and useless)
It is manageable - especially with help. But takes thinking about, techniques to be learnt and applied, and a responsibility to yourself and others (Relief to get CBT or DBT because that should train you to deal with it).
A lovely person with BPD is unlikly to be horrid to people, overly angry or violent. It is not necessary. It is not inside in the first place. BUT if someone is abusive and provokes very wrongly for a long time, then we are as likely to respond negatively as any none-BPD person.
Someone who is BPD and is also nasty, violent, abused, brought up to be angry and violent and who thinks it there right to yell, hit etc others, then they will have an even bigger job at controlling themselves as anyone else.
It does not follow that because a person has BPD they are also a horrid person. Do not need locking up in Alcatraz, bars on windows etc.
What they do need is help with separation and abandonment issues (so don't get in a stew) a kind an loving partner who will work with them (e.g. when I get fretful and freaky he holds me very tightly in bear hug and won't let go til I calm down.) We need stability, timetables that remain fixed, people to do what they say and promise they will do, and consistency.
It is ok to be BPD just as it is ok to be Bipolar, or have phobias etc. BUT our responsibility is not to be a nuisance and a drama queen/king, not to be a self-attention seeking selfish person, but to learn to manage our insecurities.
My thoughts anyway. Read "I hate you - don't leave me" very good and easily available book.
Keziah - you comment are very helpful...
What I am hearing you say is that BPD does not make us nasty... some people are just nasty to begin with..
that this can be delt with....
it does not have to control me...
I can learn to control it...
it is conversations like this that help me get over my ummm.... bias
I'm not really sure I can acurately explain the pic/idea I have in my mind regarding BPD. I do know, however, what BPD has meant for me. It has meant moments of uncontrollable rage during which all I felt I could do was scream at the person I was angry with, and also, break things. It has meant fear of rejection and abandonment, and because of this, me avoiding relationships to save myself from being let down. It's meant many many days and nights, mostly nights, of being totally wasted on alcohol or weed just to get through the day or night. It's meant identity problems...me not knowing who the hell I am nor where my place is in the world. It's meant so much self destruction that my arms and legs are now very clearly scarred from various types of blades. I could go on and on, and if it sounds like I took all of that right out of the DSM-IV, I promise, I didn't. I just fit the criteria VERY well.
I guess in my mind, it's borderline insanity...at times. Not always, but certainly at times, depending on my mood, frame of mind, etc. Maybe, though, the borderline insanity feeling comes from my other disorders...one, two, or all of them. I'm currently delusional. Oh well.