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I am most comfortable when I don't have extra money. I wish I had financial security for the future-which I don't, but money in my wallet makes me nervous and sad.
I received two chunks of money recently. The first one I put in a savings account. I made the temporary mistake of allowing my husband to have access. He burned through quite a bit without telling me. I had him removed. When I received my bonus from teaching 1/2 of last year, I burned through it.
My problem is when I receive money, I get nervous and depressed. When I am spending it I feel "normal" and when it is gone I am sad again for a while. When I say normal-I guess I am refering to when we were financially secure.
After a few weeks of no extra money I am content again. Right now most bills are getting paid, we have food, I just don't have any extra. This is when I am most comfortable.
I am nervous about my children's future. I don't have any money headed my way in the future except through my husband. He has proven to be a sweet husband, but not good with money.
I guess I am very nervous about my kids. I'm pissed with myself that I can't pull myself together enough to get a job and secure their future.
I received two chunks of money recently. The first one I put in a savings account. I made the temporary mistake of allowing my husband to have access. He burned through quite a bit without telling me. I had him removed. When I received my bonus from teaching 1/2 of last year, I burned through it.
My problem is when I receive money, I get nervous and depressed. When I am spending it I feel "normal" and when it is gone I am sad again for a while. When I say normal-I guess I am refering to when we were financially secure.
After a few weeks of no extra money I am content again. Right now most bills are getting paid, we have food, I just don't have any extra. This is when I am most comfortable.
I am nervous about my children's future. I don't have any money headed my way in the future except through my husband. He has proven to be a sweet husband, but not good with money.
I guess I am very nervous about my kids. I'm pissed with myself that I can't pull myself together enough to get a job and secure their future.
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God...how depressing.
I realize I was the one to start this discussion. I know how to save if I keep my husband away. It is when I have money in wallet that I have problems.
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