Personality Disorders Support Group

Personality disorders form a class of mental disorders that are characterized by long-lasting rigid patterns of thought and behaviour. Personality disorders are seen by the American Psychiatric Association as an enduring pattern of inner experience and behavior that deviates markedly from the expectations of the culture of the individual who exhibits it.

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hi my mum has BPD and Im at a loose end on what to do to help her. she cuts herself and she has tryed to end her life, she has voices in her head telling her to harm herself. She always tells me when she has done something she shouldnt have, to be honest I would rather not know but I am the only person she feel she can talk to and I dont want to take that away from her. I moved away from her about a year ago due to problems in my own life, so I cant see her on a daily basis but I call at least 3 times a day, she has 3 other grown up children and 4 granchildren so she is far from lonley.

I would be gratfull for some advice, I love her so much and dont want her to hurt herself no more.
thanks xx
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Wow. The only thing that I can say is to encourage her to go out and meet some new people. Also: have you ever thought that maybe you are enabling her? A lot of the cutting behavior is to get attention. If you are calling becuase she is sick...her behavor is getting her attention. Try calling and not talking about what she is doing.

Thank you for your comment though. I have BPD with a 6 year old. I am told that this is really effecting her, and I did not want to beleif it. Now, I am starting to see that it is true. Your entry helped me to see that this can cause problems even for adult children...So: what is it doing to an innocent child who has no other choice??
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I have BPD(too many other things to go into) and I also 'cut' but it is not to get attention!! most of the time I hide it or at least try to hide it...I only have one person I feel safe talking to and I know how hard it is for him...so my heart goes out to you...but being on this side of it...I need you to know how important you are! if it helps you, it is okay to set bounderies with your mum...it will be good for her too...at times, cutting helps let go of so much of the pain and at other times I dont even know I've done it...my advise to you : let her know you are there for her - (BPD fear abandonment) - helps her to find a good therapist (will give her another safe place to talk) - give your self a break and remember how important you are! Thank you for being a support system, it is a very important role!
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