
Personality Disorders Support Group
Personality disorders form a class of mental disorders that are characterized by long-lasting rigid patterns of thought and behaviour. Personality disorders are seen by the American Psychiatric Association as an enduring pattern of inner experience and behavior that deviates markedly from the expectations of the culture of the individual who exhibits it.

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Hello dear friends,
I have a question regarding parenting with BPD. I have three gorgeous children and they are the light of my life.
Now the nasty question:
Has anyone ever been through a divorce and had this condition brought to surface in court regarding child custody? My hubby and I are separated and he fears coming home to me because of my sharp tounge. However, since the separation I've been seeing a pdoc and a tdoc. My tdoc and I are beginning DBT both one-on-one and group therapy. I truly want to get better and if I had my way, I would still be married, but he's separating more and more and I fear for the worse.
The thing that scares me me the most is our daughter (that we share from our marriage). I am petrified that if I tried to fight for her if a divorce comes about that due to my illness I'll lose her. I cannot help I am BPD, but I am doing something about it. Even if my hubby refuses to believe in my efforts.
Any words of wisdom or similar events that you could share would be most appreciated.
I have a question regarding parenting with BPD. I have three gorgeous children and they are the light of my life.
Now the nasty question:
Has anyone ever been through a divorce and had this condition brought to surface in court regarding child custody? My hubby and I are separated and he fears coming home to me because of my sharp tounge. However, since the separation I've been seeing a pdoc and a tdoc. My tdoc and I are beginning DBT both one-on-one and group therapy. I truly want to get better and if I had my way, I would still be married, but he's separating more and more and I fear for the worse.
The thing that scares me me the most is our daughter (that we share from our marriage). I am petrified that if I tried to fight for her if a divorce comes about that due to my illness I'll lose her. I cannot help I am BPD, but I am doing something about it. Even if my hubby refuses to believe in my efforts.
Any words of wisdom or similar events that you could share would be most appreciated.
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