Personality Disorders Support Group

Personality disorders form a class of mental disorders that are characterized by long-lasting rigid patterns of thought and behaviour. Personality disorders are seen by the American Psychiatric Association as an enduring pattern of inner experience and behavior that deviates markedly from the expectations of the culture of the individual who exhibits it.

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well today i am feeling very low as yesterday i was screaming out load my partner wont lissen to me i was angry and frustrated.i felt like i was going made i felt unloved lonley. I was evern imaginin me hanging my self i would not do that but it feels good when i do think like that. I feel i am mentaly being torchered by my partner but i dont no weather that is me in my head.I want him to understand what i am going throgh i scream and shout because he wont lissen,i want him to read up on my disorder because i really sometimes think the medical profeshion he doesnt beleive.I love my partner and my family,i wish they could understand. I HAVE MISSED MY THEROPY THIS WEEK AND I am feeling it , im going tomorrow,i wonder what i will talk about as i feel hurt at the mo.
sharabi-23
sharabi-23
I'm sorry you are feeling bad...I missed my appointment today too. Oooops!

We will never be able to force our partners to "read up" on our illnesses. Would be nice so they know where we are coming from.

Perhaps they don't want to believe you have an illness or they believe you are seeking an excuse for your actions...(just an idea here).

What we can do is put ourselves in their shoes trying to deal with us. How would it be if I had to deal with ME?

For me it would be difficult....Hope this helps.
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Think it too - my partner is very patient and understanding but has never read up on one word about my disorder. I have put a book in front of him and he read the back cover. He agreed with it.

So - I give him bedtime stories - a chapter a night. He lies there and listens to me read. Ha!!! Well not every night. But Sunday mornings is a good time.
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When I first found out about BPD, I started reading everything I could. I couldn't understand why my husband who is very good to me did not read the books are articles I put in front of him. I eventually gave up on trying to get him to read. He is always willing to discuss, so I have decided to be satisfied with that. I know he cares and I know he is interested, but I guess the information isn't as interesting to him as it is to me because I have lived and am living what is on the pages.
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hi there well ty 4 your reply i went to theropy yesterday and i have never cryed so much in all my life,i felt numb when i came out of there.Glad i went though it helped get a few things out .
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Well, without wanting to sound crass....I wouldn't want to listen to you if you screamed and shouted at me either.

Try looking at it from his point of view and remember......it's not what you say, but HOW you say it that can alter the intent of the msg you are trying to give him.

You might find that a calm rational discussion would be far better received
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