Remember how Jerry Sandusky's son, Jeffrey, defended his dad throughout the abuse investigation against him, while later, on Oprah, his other son, Matt, disclosed that Sandusky had, in fact, groomed and molested him (Matt)? Now that Jeffrey has been arrested for sexual abuse....
...it's no great leap to believe that he, too, might have been sexually abused by Sandusky.
We know that Matt tried to disclose to his mom, but she responded in the most discouraging way. This is from a 2012 interview about Matt's disclosure interview on Oprah (https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/morning-mix/wp/2014/07/18/everything-you-missed-from-matthew-sanduskys-interview-with-oprah-winfrey/?utm_term=.fd0540a4c07d):
"Even after her husband’s conviction, Dottie Sandusky has maintained her husband is innocent.
"In an interview with Matt Lauer, she attempted to discredit Matthew. She accused him of stealing from the family, which he denies. She also claimed Matthew suffered from bipolar disorder.
“I’m not bipolar,” Matthew told Oprah. “I’m dealing with psychological issues from the abuse.”
If Jeffrey was abused, too, did he try to disclose? Did he defend his dad out of fear? Or was it Stockholm Syndrome (which may have had a hold on Mrs. Sandusky as well)?
My reason for posting is to say this (from http://www.stopitnow.org/ohc-content/do-victims-become-perpetrators):
"Being believed and supported reduces risk [of a survivor becoming an abuser]
"For children who have been abused, being believed and supported by significant people in their lives is one of the most important factors that contribute to their healthy and safe sexual behaviors as they grown into adulthood. It is never too late for you or someone you know to get help for dealing with the impact of sexual abuse. It is never too late to offer support to someone who experienced sexual abuse as a child."
IN OTHER WORDS, your willingness to BELIEVE your child's disclosure is literally the BEST thing you can do, both to steer your child onto the path of healing. The path toward healing is long, but if you have taken the step of believing your child, you have taken THE most important step of all. CONGRATULATIONS! Healing lies ahead.
Love to you all!!
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