I’ll try to keep this brief....yet I may not have much success. Basic background...a year and a half ago, I found out my husband was molesting two of our daughters, and grooming two other daughters. We have 8 kids. We escaped, he confessed to me and I recorded it...5 times. He was arrested and convicted with a deferred sentence. There is a protective order and he hasn’t seen the kids since we escaped. Now that we are out, we can see clearly how abusive he was to all of us.
I have read some other posts and I have similar grievances. He makes $500 k a year and refuses to pay child support. I have an autoimmune disease that prevents me from working and so I am struggling to provide for my children. I do online work and have ruined my credit because I used cc to survive. Three of my kids are stuggling with the side effects of his abuse and the others are hurting in their own way. I talked to a lawyer about forcing child support and increasing it based off his tax returns....but I can’t afford the retainer. He got arrested on a probation violation...he got engaged to a woman that had a young daughter the same age as when he started abusing ours. However, he got off on a technicality because some paperwork wasn’t filled out properly.
How in the world does he get to have a life free of financial stress and without dealing with the absolute pain he has caused his children....and we are struggling to survive emotionally, mentally, and financially....not to mention the absolute hell this has done to my health.
I am just so angry and sick. I feel like I should have known. I feel like my oldest daughters blame me. I feel like I just want to protect my kids and I am struggling to provide for them. I am angry....just so hurt and angry. Sometimes I literally don’t know if I am going to survive this....and if I died, who would protect my children. I hate him for all of this. And...I just want my family to be okay. I just want us all to be okay. How can I possibly survive all this?
Hey everyone! Since fiance has been home I haven’t been on here often! So just checking in. Hope everyone is hanging in there and staying positive! We are currently expecting (yayy) so obviously I’ve been busy. But I’m still around for support if anyone needs it! I check my emails everyday so if I get a message it’ll notify me! Keep your heads up guys! Remember everyday is another day...
I am with a man who was convicted of child pornography. He was 19 and is now 25. He served a year in prison and has been on probation the rest of the time. I love him so much but don't know what steps to take in order to gain the trust I need from him. To know it won't happen again. Am I ever going to be able to do that? Will we ever be able have kids of our own? Is it possible them to change?...