I found out in November that my husband touched my daughter at age 15/16 on several occasions. My daughter is now 30 years old and though it was devastatingly hard for her to tell me, she didn't want him walking her down the aisle at her upcoming wedding. My husband and I have been married since my daughter was 5 and to say I was shocked, angry, sad and confused is an understatement. I felt awful that I didn't know, didn't protect her and that someone who said they loved me, could hurt my baby. He didn't deny doing it, begged for forgiveness, but we've split up.
I am currently seeing a therapist because I definitely think I'm suffering from depression, PTSD and shock. The therapist does not understand why I haven't told anyone about this abuse, like my friends and family. The end of my marriage came as a shock to everyone and all I've said to others is that it was sudden and there was a betrayal of trust. I've told the therapist that I felt it was my daughter's story and I didn't want to share her business. I know how hard it was for my daughter to tell me what happened and I wish I could go back in time and protect her from this abuse. Her only concern was how telling me would impact my life. Unbelieveable that even through her pain, she was worried about me. :-( I love her so, so much! I wonder though, if by not telling people what happened, I am actually "protecting" him? Or am I concerned what others will think of me as a mother?
My estranged husband has been sending me flowers, texting me constantly with how sorry he is for the pain he's caused, etc. I try not to even talk to him, because I feel that by doing so I'm betraying my daughter.
I think my therapist was right....it's the first time I've spoken the words ("my husband abused my daughter") and it makes it feel real. I've felt like I've been in an alternate universe for the last 3 months. I go through each day just "being" and not really living. I put on a fake face, because I never want my daughter to feel that her telling me wasn't the right thing. I'm SO glad she found the courage to tell me.
theripst wrote Dcf and asked my visits be stopped. My children were removed in 2018. Ive done therpy and still go. I have NEVER missed 1 visit. Last summer we or doing a parent child reunification program. They bring your childeren to your home for 2 hours watch your inneract with them. I was lied to by the person doing this assestment. I was told any concerns she had she would tell me and it was...
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