In the past several months I've been dealing with some difficult issues with my brother, who probably has bordering personality disorder, and my son--the one who abused my daughter when he was a preteen, who seems to have a decent relationship with his sister now but has turned a ton of anger on me. My husband and I are also in counseling together and unearthing stuff, and I'm reading a lot of books trying to figure things out--Men are from Mars Women are from Venus, the Highly Sensitive Person, Boundaries, The Mom Factor, etc. I think really deeply about things and I have gotten a lot of insights from different books and different people I talk to. But of course every book or person looks at things a little differently and sometimes different theories/lenses for viewing things seem to contradict each other. And even two years after disclosure, I still feel like I have no confidence at all in my ability to discern what's right and what's not, that I can't trust my gut and sometimes don't even have a "gut feeling" about anything. Once I found out that the boy who seemed to be the sweetest, most protective brother ever had done this to his sister, and now that he's being his usual nice to everyone else but nothing but bitter and angry and insulting to me, I felt like I couldn't be sure of anything I knew about him or my family any more--and I haven't recovered that ability yet. Have others been through this and does it eventually end?
Good evening everyone so my fiance was charged and convicted of solicitation of a minor over electronic device and attempting to meet with said minor he never did meet with the minor, it was a sting operation entire time so no minor was in danger. anyways he is currently in a penitentiary where he has received multiple threats on his life and I am not sure how I'm supposed to help him through...
So, our one son is facing three felonies and two misdeamors. Its being kept in juvenile court. In about a month, there is another hearing and his PO tells me its an arrainment and sentencing all rolled into one. I keep asking if he is facing jail and/or detention and no one wants to tell me anything.What should I expect here?