How do you go about dealing with your child's poor choices/behaviors post disclosure (now knowing the root of these behaviors is trauma)?
My son is 13, his issues are primarily at school surrounding respect particularly with teachers and admin however also with space and property of his peers. He has never been physical or violent (other than threats) however he is a giant for his age. His presence is intimidating enough.
We work closely with the school and we are called every time there is an incident. He mainly spends his time in the office which often agrivates the situation. We also don't want him to feel he can use his disclosure as a continued reason to behave the way he does or makes the poor choices he does.
From all I have read is that it's important to place boundaries as well as instil consequences. Consistency is key HOWEVER I feel we do this. This is our parenting style and has worked across the board with our older 4.
I also feel admin is getting exhausted with him however I don't think it's fair (I have been advised by professionals that he/we don't have to) that we need to disclose to everyone whom deals with him so they understand.
We have a behavioural support worker coming to our home tomorrow evening with help and strategies. We have had this pre-disclosure over the years with little results or very temporary. It seems these support workers should be helping the school as we have very little issues at home.
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