It's been a long time since i've been on here. My son's perp is his father (was my husband) and it all came out at the beginning of this year when my son disclosed. He was 6 at the time. It would appear that the abuse had been occuring at least since the age of 3, and probably before that. The abuse was happening when I wasn't home and my son had been groomed into keeping the secret. After disclosure, I went straight to police and reported. My husband was charged, but then released on bail. The case will be proceeding to trial but has a way to go.
When this all came out, I thought it might be best for my son to continue to have supervised contact with his dad. He has seemed utterly miserable and complained frequently of missing him. So we commenced supervised contact (though infrequent) and phone calls each week. My son verbalises to me that he wants this contact and the more the better. But since having the contact, he has reverted to wetting the bed, having nightmares, having daily meltdowns and just appears to be chronically irritable and agitated. I can't get any answers from anywhere about whether its best to cut contact with perpetrators all-together. But I'm thinking now that it is. It would be better for my son and better for me too.
Anyone had any experience around this?
Hi all! I've been away along time just living life so glad to still see so a few long timers still active I'm sure you've blessed this group tremendously as you helped me also thru this sad experience. My question today is my brothers whom I've not been in contact with for 7 years because of their choice to remain incontact with the offenders family (my stepdad) - basically continue as if...
Hi, all. When children disclose that they have been sexually abused, sometimes they don't -- or can't -- tell the whole truth right away. The process is not a linear one: children (of all ages) may disclose the least amount of information the can in order to be heard. It may sound shaky and uncertain -- or too REAL to be true; is it believable? Sometimes children disclose as much as they can,...