My ex-husband accepted a plea agreement four months ago in the crimes against our daughter. He was facing a minimum of 84 years in prison, and managed to get that reduced to a three year stayed sentence and 45 days of local jail time and 25 years of probation.
Anyway, as part of the presentence investigation, a person from the department of corrections was supposed to contact both my daughter and me. As of today, that hasn't happened. So I contacted the victim advocate person through the court. I contacted her earlier this week and still hadn't heard back, so I contacted her again. She told me that the investigator had completed the report, and according to the report, claimed that she (investigator) tried to get a hold of us, but we didn't respond to her attempts at contact. That never happened, so, of course, I was upset about this. Our victim advocate person said this happens more often than she can count - that the corrections department doesn't interview the victim before writing the presentence investigation, and then blames the lack of contact on the victim not responding.
I am so beyond disgusted at the system in general. My daughter was willing to testify against her dad, but the prosecutor was afraid that he wouldn't get a conviction, so pushed for a plea agreement that isn't even remotely close to the punishment that my ex should receive. After my ex-husband entered a guilty plea for the smallest of charges, he approached me outside of the courtroom and shouted, "LIAR!" (because he is telling people I am the person behind the allegations). The prosecutor witnessed all of this and told me to let it go, that if I reported my ex for violating the no-contact order against me, that he (prosecutor) was worried that the judge would not accept the guilty plea. Again, the prosecutor was more concerned about getting a conviction. Now I hear that the department of corrections falsified their report, and the victim advocate person only got back to me after I tried multiple times to get in touch with her. The victim advocate said the person who did the original presentence report is no longer working with the corrections department and implied the person might have gotten fired for her incompetence. As if that makes me feel any better. She suggested that I file a complaint with the department of corrections. Why couldn't have the sentence investigator just done her job? And why didn't the victim advocate follow through if she knows that the victims not being contacted is a huge issue?
I should also add that no one involved in the case believes that my ex-husband will pass sex offender treatment. He told the investigator (the gal who said that we didn't respond to her requests for information and no longer works with DOC) that he was trying to teach my daughter. It's what he told the detectives when they arrested him, but the prosecutor didn't think this was enough to convict him. Basically, everyone is just banking on him failing sex offender treatment and going to prison. But seeing as though every other aspect of the system is flawed, I am not too optimistic that will happen.
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