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Have put this on the Sexual Abuse discussion but no response and would really kind of like advice/discuss on how to deal with this next bit of my madness!!!!!!!!!!!!
I am looking for how other people have dealt with the situation!!!
My children have to go for 6 weeks of family sessions on their own with a lady where apparantly they will learn about safety... However as my daughter has opened up they feel that the sessions are not suitable for her........
However they have said that I need to talk to the boys and explain to them why Kayleigh will not be going for these sessions....
However I feel I am trying to protect them for as long as I can from the awful truth........... when the time is right and they start asking questions then maybe..........
So do I protect or do I let them know what is going on.............
Have managed to speak to my daughter tonight and she kind of said ok.. to them knowing.......... told her how proud of her I was... how strong she was and how she should feel no guilt at all.......
However did feel that when we had the discussion of who should feel guilty she did not seem to know who should............... What is the power these flaming abusers have to make us not realise eh...........
So has anyone found themselves in this situation??? or had to sit there children down and tell them something that has happened to there brother or sister.........if so how did you go about it.........
Suppose didn't really know where to put this one advise or discussion but I suppose I am looking for how other people have dealt with the situation!!!
My children have to go for 6 weeks of family sessions on their own with a lady where apparantly they will learn about safety... However as my daughter has opened up they feel that the sessions are not suitable for her........
However they have said that I need to talk to the boys and explain to them why Kayleigh will not be going for these sessions....
However I feel I am trying to protect them for as long as I can from the awful truth........... when the time is right and they start asking questions then maybe..........
So has anyone found themselves in this situation??? or had to sit there children down and tell them something that has happened to there brother or sister.........if so how did you go about it.........
I am looking for how other people have dealt with the situation!!!
My children have to go for 6 weeks of family sessions on their own with a lady where apparantly they will learn about safety... However as my daughter has opened up they feel that the sessions are not suitable for her........
However they have said that I need to talk to the boys and explain to them why Kayleigh will not be going for these sessions....
However I feel I am trying to protect them for as long as I can from the awful truth........... when the time is right and they start asking questions then maybe..........
So do I protect or do I let them know what is going on.............
Have managed to speak to my daughter tonight and she kind of said ok.. to them knowing.......... told her how proud of her I was... how strong she was and how she should feel no guilt at all.......
However did feel that when we had the discussion of who should feel guilty she did not seem to know who should............... What is the power these flaming abusers have to make us not realise eh...........
So has anyone found themselves in this situation??? or had to sit there children down and tell them something that has happened to there brother or sister.........if so how did you go about it.........
Suppose didn't really know where to put this one advise or discussion but I suppose I am looking for how other people have dealt with the situation!!!
My children have to go for 6 weeks of family sessions on their own with a lady where apparantly they will learn about safety... However as my daughter has opened up they feel that the sessions are not suitable for her........
However they have said that I need to talk to the boys and explain to them why Kayleigh will not be going for these sessions....
However I feel I am trying to protect them for as long as I can from the awful truth........... when the time is right and they start asking questions then maybe..........
So has anyone found themselves in this situation??? or had to sit there children down and tell them something that has happened to there brother or sister.........if so how did you go about it.........
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I think you need to honest and not hide anything, but at the same time you don't have to get into details. If you don't say anything then your daughter may start to feel shame, that the situation is too shameful to talk about.
I don't understand why the sessions wouldn't be suitable for her, she needs to learn how to protect herself from being abused again.
Anyhow she rang up tonight and is coming around tomorrow night to see the boys........ she asked me try and talk to them all.....
Firstly to my daughter to let her know she is coming and she is not coming to take her away as she has broke down at school thinking that she is going to be taken away cause of what she has said.....
I spoke to her tonight and asked her if she minded if the boys knew.... she said no but with somewhat reluctance which I so understand..........
I felt the same way with my brother..........
I also thankgod had the courage tonight to tell her proud i was of her at what courage she had and that she should not feel guilt........ I tried to get out of her who should feel guilty and this is where she struggled but tried to explain that she should feel none at all........
I think to be honest they are not sending her on this course at the minute as they are trying to protect her from anymore stress as she has being showing quite alot recently...
Has anyone been through the stage of having to tell siblings and if so how did they go about it...........
I know it is something I will have to face as he probably will in fact I have been told he will definatly have a prison sentence for what he did to me............ so eventually they will need to be told..........but do you really need to say anything now before the questions are starting to be asked????????????//